When it comes to celebrating our bodies, there is nothing more empowering than slipping into lacy lingerie and realizing that beauty comes in all shapes and sizes. You see despite my lack of confidence in my own ‘naked body’, when it comes to a good ‘underwear set’ I feel like a million dollars, forgetting for a moment about the issues I have around my body and the obstacles I have overcome to get to this journey of ‘semi-self love’. I have always been ‘flat chested’ and when I was younger craved ‘bigger breasts’ so that I could fit in with the people around me and now, I am far more accepting of my smaller frame, even if I still wish that I was curvier than the slim build I have now. And I am not alone; whether you are male, female, trans, gender fluid or prefer to be without labels, we are all conscious of our bodies and how they ‘measure up’ to the so called strict beauty standards that seems to flood our social media pages with glee. But the truth is, no body shape is ‘abnormal’ or ugly and it is often our own insecurities that stop us from seeing the true beauty that is there.
Which is where the beauty of lingerie from the likes of Sintimacy comes in, from erotic dresses that wrap you in sensual delight to lacy yet racy thongs and bralettes that make you feel sexually awakened, when it comes to lingerie, it is far more empowering than the media might like to think.’
And remember ‘lingerie’ is not necessarily always equated to sex either; when I wear underwear it’s not to improve my sex life but is worn because it makes me feel good, and I don’t need to take my clothes off to prove it. Lingerie is confidence boosting, apt at self-esteem building and best of all enables you to invest in self-care, taking the time out of our days to indulge in some quality me time, whether that be by indulging in foreplay, solo play or simply just luxuriating in bed, watching Netflix in your good ol’ pair of undies. Read on below to find five empowering reasons to love your lingerie.
1.Lingerie Teaches You To Embrace And Feel At One With Your Body
I mentioned above that I have always found it difficult to embrace my own body, largely because of the comments I have received about my weight calling me names like ‘skinny‘ , anorexic and a bag of bones, which naturally is hurtful but also discriminatory towards people who actually have eating disorders. And while shaming anyone for their weight is never acceptable, ‘skinny shaming’ tends to get overlooked because apparently it’s ‘a compliment’ if you are compared to someone who has a serious illness, when in actuality, it’s damaging and can have negative long term consequences on the person that you are inflicting your comments towards. Because of the way people have treated me about my size, alongside snide remarks of how ‘I must never eat’ , I developed Body dysmorphia which affected the way that I saw my body and still does to an extent even today. But I am improving; I already stated that I no longer wish for bigger breasts and think that there is no shame in being flat chested, but I still find it a struggle to look at my ribs, even though I know it’s just because I happen to be petite rather than curvy, as that is my body shape.
Something seems to change when I have the right lingerie though, I feel sensual, I feel alive and in something like a sheer bodysuit or a halterneck all in one, it covers the areas that I am least comfortable with, while still making me feel sexy and in control. And ladies you don’t need a guy to wear sexy lingerie, it is all about embracing and feeling at one with your body, as opposed to pleasing others, but more on that later. Through lingerie, I have felt more comfortable, more at ease and more loving towards my body than I have in years.
2. Lingerie Helps To Boost Your Self Esteem And Confidence
Speaking of being at one with our bodies, practicing self love doesn’t just revolve around feeling more comfortable in our own skin physically but it also relates to how we feel in our minds. Take a look at something like a mental health toolkit, which I use on days where I feel like absolute s**t, a welcome necessity in times of stress and anxiety, which plagues me often. In my mental health toolkit I highlighted that alongside the standard advice on ‘getting sunshine’ and fresh air’, eating well and having set sleeping patterns, the right lingerie can also really help to boost your self esteem and confidence, because it makes you feel like you are in control, are newly awakened and even if you are single and noone knows about the underwear that you are wearing, can provide enough sassiness for you to get through the day. It’s like when I ‘go out’ I feel at my most confident when I am wearing make up, have my hair up and am wearing something dressed up and extra as usual because that is just me and it’s exactly the same with the underwear ‘sitch’ as well. It might seem strange to suggest that something as simple as underwear can have a positive impact on your mind but believe me, both in and out of the bedroom, in the right lingerie I feel like a motherf**king warrior.
Speaking of transformative qualities, am I right in saying that lingerie can change the way that you perceive yourself? Take it from someone who is her own worst critic and tends to think that others view me in the same ‘critical light’; lingerie is like good armor, it shields you from destruction, it makes you feel fierce and in command and above all makes you feel like you can do anything that you put your mind to. Now how is that for a self-esteem and confidence booster?
3. Lingerie Is Good For Both ‘Solo’ And ‘Couple Play’
While lingerie doesn’t necessarily have to be catered to ‘bedroom activities’, we all know the power of a good lingerie set on a partner. Whether you use lingerie as a power tool in ‘couple play’ with kinky role play, light BDSM or anything else that tickles your fancy or use it in ‘solo play’ while you enjoy some cheeky alone time with sex toys, the power of lingerie as a sexual enhancer is undeniable. The line ‘you’re sexy and you know it’ springs to mind (ya know the LMFAO song back in the day) and it is true that even someone as gawky and as geeky as myself knows that there is a inner sex kitten screaming out for attention and it’s an alter ego that lies in us all. In fact you know mine, AKA Jasmine, the girl who dodges f**kboys left, right and centre and doles out dating advice on the dollar-holler. What I am trying to say is, lingerie can make even the most shy and timid person come out of their shell because it’s almost like putting on a rather sexy costume. Don’t believe me?
Well a simple bra and panties is just as hot to trot but when you put on a corset or bodysuit, stockings, heels and a suspender belt you truly feel like you are playing the part of a sexier version of yourself and who doesn’t like some good ol’ fashioned roleplay? I know I certainly do!
4. Lingerie Is Not Only Equated To Sexual Power But Is Also About Celebrating Who You Are As A Person (Even If Noone Else Is Watching)
I mentioned before that lingerie can bring sexual power and prowess,but it is not only about pleasing yourself and others but also about celebrating who you are as a person, mind, body and soul. It grounds you in the way that you walk and the way that you carry yourself, as well as making you feel like you didn’t just win the lottery but you are the motherf***ing lottery. Yes girl, eat it up, eat all of this fishy realness. But drag race puns aside, lingerie is both a provocative tool of sexual power and also a perpetrator of self-love, allowing you to celebrate every inch of you,flaws and warts and all. So yes your boobs might be small, and you might not be as curvy as you would like to be but focus on the positive aspects that you do like about yourself. And while I wouldn’t normally tell you to focus on your body, in this case celebrating who you are as a person involves you showing the same level of compassion and love to your body as well as the nurturing care that you show your mind.
5. Lingerie Gives You The Chance To Treat Yourself And Indulge In Some Much Needed Self Care
Speaking of celebrating who we are as people, mind, body and soul, through the right pair of lingerie, underwear allows us to be able to invest in self care and gives us the chance to treat ourselves. Think about it this way, when was the last time that you truly allowed yourself to have some me time, without interruption, when was the last time that you watched TV without hastily compiling emails on your phone. Or how long has it been since you treated yourself to something nice (and no paying your utility bill on time doesn’t count)?. If you struggle to come up with answer than chances are that you have definitely not been good at sticking to the self-care wagon and who can blame you. After all personally I know that most of my money goes on bills, rent, travel and food, which ironically as a blogger means that it’s very rare that the clothes that I wear are not gifted, because of lack of finances. So why not treat yourself to something small; whether it be a sex toy like a vibrator bullet or a simple pack of thongs, to give yourself the me time that you well and truly deserve.Go on, make it happen!
Do You Find That Lingerie Helps You Feel Empowered?