Year after year we make resolutions we can’t keep ; we frantically try our best during the first few days of January and then poof, Motivation is gone. I say this with conviction because I am one of these ‘do gooders’. I write a list and make sure to check it twice but alas there goes my new years resolution…again. Be more organized, make more time for friends and family, conquer the world. We all have a resolution that we hope to fulfill during the chosen year but is there really any point? If we make our year about ‘resolutions’ that we failed to commit to previous years ago then surely that defeats the objective of a ‘new year’? After all going into a new year is about gaining perspective; thus we should try something new and outside of our comfort zone.
When my friend asked me what my new years resolution was I was stumped. So many of us center our resolutions around goals but I began to think a little differently. What if we centered our resolutions around ‘achievements’ instead, would it mean we would be more successful at completing them? Another thing to note is that we all make the mistake of thinking that ‘resolutions’ are annual commitments when in reality our goals and achievements should be ongoing. So instead of calling our new years resolutions , ‘resolutions’ can’t we just call them ‘ongoing goals’? Sure it doesn’t have the same ring to it but isn’t it a more accurate description of what we would like to achieve in the future?
What really gets me mad is when people come down on you for not achieving your ‘new years resolutions’, making you feel guilty for your supposed lack of success. In my eyes if a ‘resolution’ is actually a ‘goal’ you are working towards, then surely falling off the bandwagon is a natural course of progression? After all Rome was not built in a day, athletes spend years to just qualify in the Olympics and the average blogger takes 7 years to make it ‘big’. In the grand scheme of things, a resolution makes it sound as though your journey is one straight narrow path to stardom, when in reality it takes blood, sweat and tears. We never stop working towards our goals but for some reason we spend the last few days of December drawing up goals we ‘have to have completed’ by the end of 2017. What you should really be doing is looking forward to living in the moment and not feeling guilty if you only partially complete your goals.
I have lost count of the times where I have drawn up a list of stats to be completed by the end of each month and those goals not be met. Instead of feeling angry, sad or frustrated I welcomed it as a challenge to work on the next month and so forth. Take Instagram for example, in my idealistic fantasy pre January 2017 I believed I could break 10 K but life got in the way. From March to October I was rarely on Instagram and was barely posting or engaging with users. It was largely due to photographer inactivity but it was also partially due to lifestyle changes, moving, deaths of loved ones and poor management of time. Instead of bemoaning why I wasn’t making rapid progress on social media I waited until I could begin posting more frequently, taking the pressure off my performance. From October to December I saw a growth of 1.5 K and double the engagement and likes which in my eyes was excellent. I am no way near 10 K ; I am about to break 4 K but it doesn’t matter. We all progress at different rates so why let new year resolutions dictate our success?
Only you have the power to dictate your success and whether that be small or gradual changes don’t make it an annual resolution, make it a lifestyle change. I told my friends that I wanted to be a full time blogger by December 2017 but realistically I know that might not happen. And that’s ok, as long as I keep working at my goal and take regular breaks in between I know that I will achieve my goals. Whether it takes one year or three, I don’t need a new years resolution to create goals to work towards.
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