The birds crow and the insects murmur, the first buds of spring open their new born petals and the bees suckle at their nectarine breast. Here in spring, no mention of winter is allowed and as the ice begins to thaw so do our frozen hearts, coming alive again in time for spring. There is something so joyous about the beginning of spring, the birds and bees co-exist in a synonymous harmony and the children gather excitedly round the front door, ready to step into spring and make magic happen. For me the notion of ‘spring’ runs a little deeper than a ‘frivolous pastime’ and holds special resonance close to my heart. It was during the first buds of spring that I was rescued from an oppressive childhood by my foster mum and aunty and welcomed into a new life where I could be free to express myself in any shape or form. It was during spring that I discovered my love for transitional fashion, creating a look that was caught between the cusp of two alternate seasons and it was spring that inspired my blog name, ‘Faded Spring’. When people asked me why I was called ‘Faded Spring’ I stated simply that spring had always been a part of my identity and how I saw myself as a person and it was the months which had truly made me feel alive. The winters were too cold and the summers too hot but spring was like Goldilocks said, ‘just right’, in short it was me.
I wanted to step into spring this season with a flair in my step and a chance to forge new beginnings, as last spring I was going through a difficult time with the deaths of my angels, poor living arrangements and a lack of finances. This spring though, I can smell change in the air; I might not have much money but at least I am happy, I work with brands who love and respect my work and am rewarded with a new wardrobe to extol my writing credentials. With some brands like Blue Vanilla, I have been fortunate enough to work with them several times and to me it is a mark of a good working relationship, when the brand wants to work together again. While I was Tripping In Space with Blue Vanilla in winter, this spring I chose a trend that reflected who I want to be this season and that is a woman liberated from societal control.
We live our lives being told what we can and can’t wear, where even some guidelines are dictated by the seasonal ‘trend reports’ but quite honestly you do YOU. If you want to show some skin in the middle of winter, you go for it or if you want to wear ‘winter trends’ in the middle of summer, why the hell not? For me one of the biggest ‘spring’ trends is the off-the- shoulder/ cold shoulder trend, that sensually skims the shoulders in perfect rapport. I grew up in an environment that was quite conservative and because I was seen as a petite little girl with a tomboy figure, whenever I tried to wear clothing that showed a little bit of skin, I would be mocked for daring to wear clothing that was apparently only suited to those who rocked a curvaceous bod. Well listen up judgmental peeps, I stopped caring what people thought of my clothing choices a long time ago and regardless of size you can wear whatever the hell you want. Lets face it, even if I was a stylist I wouldn’t tell people that they couldn’t wear a bodycon dress because they were too curvaceous or state that a woman couldn’t wear a low cut top because she was part of the itty bitty titty parade!
But I digress, spring is about looking and feeling good and for me I have fallen hopelessly in love with the cold shoulder trend. It is largely to do with me rebelling against the conservative constraints that I grew up in but also because I used to feel uncomfortable with showing my shoulders. It sounds strange I know but for those of you who read my post ‘ skinny, call me slim‘ , I reported that I had a disorder known as Body Dysmorphia (BDD) , where I had an altered perception of my shape and size, struggling to love my body for what it was. I didn’t love my body because I was told that I was too ‘skinny’ (a word I despise), ‘looked anorexic’ and ultimately shouldn’t wear clothing that ‘showed my body’. It took me a long time to ignore the haters and I used to cover up my body because I felt uncomfortable, constantly paranoid about what people may think. But then I stopped caring and realized that I shouldn’t be afraid to show my body and I felt empowered for the first time. I have a prominent clavicle ( collarbone) which I always tried to cover up because of the bullies who tried to make me hate my body but since becoming a blogger, my clothing choices have reflected the change in my attitudes towards my own body and that is someone who couldn’t give a flying f**k about what you think.
So I ask you this, will you wear a trend that makes you feel empowered, even if it is out of your comfort zone? Will you show off your small breasts or large bum and not give a flying hoot about the comments you may receive? Chances are by embracing the body you have and highlighting a feature that you may have felt uncomfortable exposing in the past- i.e. legs/neck ect, you will be more body positive and feel grateful for the body you have regardless of shape and size. I have already accepted and learnt to love my small breasts and while the rest of the body is a work in progress, learning to love one bit of yourself will give you the confidence to be free. Today I highlighted my collarbone and shoulders to step into spring with confidence and tomorrow I might embrace my legs, whatever you choose to embrace this spring, do it with power and positivity.
What Trend Will You Wear This Spring To Be More Body Positive?
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