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Faded Spring Moves House (Again!)

March 5, 2017

Faded Spring Moves House (Again!)

I am drained and can feel the energy seeping out of me, sapping my strength like a leech. I wake up feeling disorientated  and my motivation to leave my house is drastically waning. But I have no choice, everyday I get up and go to a job that I despise and work day and night to keep myself afloat. At night when the children lay low and the house is silent I come alive, free from the prison that I am meant to call my home. The house is spacious and the room is big but when you feel like you are unwanted and you don’t belong, all those attributes don’t seem to matter. Its toxic, I wait until midnight to start cooking and even then I am wary that they are watching, judging me like they always do. First comes the texts , persistent enough to put me on edge and then comes the looks and the fake smiles. I know they don’t like me but what can I do? I sleep for four hours a night, get up in the morning when the frost still sits on the window sill and the cycle begins again.

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Some days I only have one meal a day, if I have a day off I am working on my blog, waiting for when they leave the house to eat some food. The hunger pangs deepen and my migraines worsen. Its toxic, I have to get out but why up-root myself again, when I have already moved house twice? I remember leaving behind my previous home, excited to venture into the big city, fooling myself into thinking that life would be better. In some ways it has, I found new friends and new beginnings and my blog was going from strength to strength but the Reality Of Living In London was another matter altogether.  When I first came to London I was poor and sick and moving to a cheap little box room was hardly a suitable choice but I needed a roof over my head fast. There was no contract and the landlords were nice, at least at first. I discovered that I had been living with bed bugs and the trauma of having to deal with that every night, when I was working long hours was enough to put me on edge. After two months I packed my bags and left, to a bigger room, at a similar price and in a location of East London that I had fallen in love with. The landlord and his family seemed nice at first and even made me food on the first day but then things got progressively worse…

Within five days I was asked to leave but I stood my ground and told them I would not be moving. You see, like the previous landlords it became clear to me once I had moved in that they were illegally renting and were due a ‘council inspection’. They touched my stuff without my permission when I was at work and offered no apology when I confronted them. But still people make mistakes and I knew at heart that they were good people, even if their intentions were a little misguided. So I stayed, in my beautiful room and would make conversation without a care. It must have been about a month later where I noticed that things began to change; conversation became stilted, constant messages complaining about me and even face to face arguments were part of my daily routine. I no longer felt comfortable being in the same room as them and even the children would ask ‘when I was leaving’. It wasn’t a very nice thing to say and remembering how the family were with me in the beginning in contrast to now made me feel broken inside.

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I was never specifically told that I couldn’t cook at ‘certain times’ but the snide comments and looks were enough to warn me away from the kitchen. Even taking showers was something to complain about so tired, hungry and upset I would take showers when everyone was sleeping and cook well into the early morning. It is little wonder that some days I hardly ate anything at all because I was too drained to even leave my room. The messages were continuous and despite wanting to scoff my face, I would come home and go into my room to work until I was certain everyone was sleep. It was no way to live and my illnesses got worse, I was throwing up again and didn’t seem to be able to keep any food down for at least a month. My stomach shrunk and my appetite weakened and it became difficult to focus. Yet despite all the horrible things that were going on at home I was given recognition in my social and working life and that was the support I needed to get through each day.

It was the new year and I was typing a post, when I heard a distinctive beep that notified me when I had received a message. It was the landlord saying I had a month to find a new place, as their ‘mum’ would be taking my room. I started frantically searching for a new place but then two weeks later, their grandma had died and I was told I could stay. I was genuinely sad to hear that the grandmum had died and wished them my deepest condolences  but their attitude towards me got worst. Even breathing in the same space seemed to irritate them and I truly felt like a prisoner in my own home, until two weeks ago. I was told that the mum was coming and I had two weeks to find a new place. In some ways I felt stressed but in others I felt relieved, I knew after two failed rentals what to look out for and this time I was prepared to go into battle. After what seemed like a never ending search I found my perfect room; it was a similar size, still in East London and best of all the landlord did not live there. It was nearly double what I was paying already but quite frankly I knew that if I didn’t take this room someone else would and I needed a place to stay fast. Plus it was contracted, excellent location and the amenities were plentiful. In short it was my dream home.

I texted my landlord and was immediately interrogated about the room, location and how much I would be paying. This is the same landlord who sent me messages everyday asking if I had found a place yet and now suddenly they seemed to backtrack. I was cornered in the kitchen and asked a multitude of questions that quite frankly was not any of their business. I was literally counting down the days until I could move out- 5 to be precise- when I was bombarded with another text, stating that the mum would no longer be coming and that ‘again I could stay’ but there ‘were a few things that we needed to discuss’ before the final decision was made. I was torn, the rent was cheaper and I loved the location but I knew ultimately I had made the right choice when I rejected their offer. I don’t want to be in a house where I can’t even use it when I want, where some days I cry because I feel trapped and where even basic life necessities like food and hygiene are on their terms and not my own. I want to come home and feel like it is a home and not worry about more messages threatening to kick me out. I couldn’t even have friends round and to me that is no home at all.

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  1. Rebecca says

    March 5, 2017 at 9:35 pm

    Oh lovely, you write so honestly and I can feel your pain! I hope that you find a place that makes you feel like you are at ‘home’…. you want to be able to use your space like you want to, not on someone else terms! Good luck x

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  2. Hayley Warren says

    March 5, 2017 at 9:36 pm

    I’m so glad you’ve found somewhere nicer to live! I’ve had awful housemates when I was at uni.

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  3. Leah Lander-Shafik says

    March 5, 2017 at 9:54 pm

    Until I met my wife I had moved every 6 months, and honestly it’s so exhausting! I hope it all settles down soon x

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  4. Jodie Whitham says

    March 5, 2017 at 10:13 pm

    I’ve moved a lot, but luckily I’ve never had to experience that. Nobody deserves that! Hope you get settled in your new place and don’t have to share with such horrible people x

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  5. hannah says

    March 5, 2017 at 10:15 pm

    I’ve never had any housing nightmares. It does sound stressful x

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  6. Life as Mum says

    March 5, 2017 at 10:19 pm

    Oh wow. So sorry! What an honest post. We’ve been lucky and never had such problems with housing

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  7. Sarah Bailey says

    March 6, 2017 at 6:46 am

    What a horribly stressful and upsetting situation to be in, to live in a place where you couldn’t even feel comfortable cooking a meal when you wanted. I truly hope that your new rental is much better and that you feel at home there and don’t have to deal with such hostility x

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  8. Keely's Nails says

    March 6, 2017 at 8:15 am

    That sounds like an awful situation! I hope you feel more at home in the new place 👍🏻

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  9. Annemarie LeBlanc says

    March 6, 2017 at 9:11 am

    I can relate. When I was in college, I rented out a small studio apartment. Nice place, very low maintenance but the landlady was the evilest creature on the face of the planet. I could not stay there more than a month. Moved to a better neighborhood, got a decent place, and graduated from college without having to worry about anything other than my schoolwork.

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  10. Jon says

    March 6, 2017 at 9:47 am

    Very personal post. I hope you find somewhere to live which will make you happy!

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  11. Rhian Westbury says

    March 6, 2017 at 10:22 am

    I have only rented once before I was lucky enough to get my own place so I can’t imagine how tough it is but I’d suggest moving into a house which is souly rented out rather than moving in with a family or someone renting out their spare room as chances are they haven’t get all the insurances/ stuff in place and you won’t have a fall back x

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  12. Lynne Harper says

    March 6, 2017 at 11:38 am

    I really hope life starts to turn now in your new home, your such a beautiful person inside and out and we all deserve some hassle free time x

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  13. robin Rue says

    March 6, 2017 at 11:56 am

    You poor thing!!! What an awful situation to be in! I am sending positive vibes your way that your new place is MUCH better!

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  14. Kristina says

    March 6, 2017 at 12:58 pm

    I love how personal and real this post is. Hope you find your perfect home soon!
    Also, this dress is dreamy!

    Kristina xxx

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  15. Talya says

    March 6, 2017 at 1:46 pm

    We have had many house moves and many house stresses it can take it’s toll on you. Hope you will be more settled now x

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  16. Amber Myers says

    March 6, 2017 at 1:46 pm

    Oh no, I’m sorry you went through that. I haven’t gone through a nightmare like this and I hope I never do.

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  17. Michelle Murray says

    March 6, 2017 at 2:08 pm

    Oh no! This sounds awful. So sorry you are going through this

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  18. Ladies Pass It On says

    March 6, 2017 at 2:28 pm

    Oh honey I really feel for you!! There will come a day when you put down roots in a place you call home and everything will be worth it. Keep your chin up!

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  19. Nadine Cathleen says

    March 6, 2017 at 3:38 pm

    Gosh, I really like your fashion style! It’s so individual and inspiring 🙂 🙂

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  20. karen says

    March 6, 2017 at 4:12 pm

    Holy cow – that is some serious tough living situations!I have never had any experiences even come close to this nightmare. I hope you’re in a better situation now!

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  21. Jess says

    March 6, 2017 at 4:25 pm

    This is crazy and not to mention – totally illegal! A landlord can’t just change their mind like that. They have to give you 30 days written notice. Even if they decided their mother was coming to stay in the end – the 30 day period would have to start again. I don’t understand how people can be so inconsiderate. I get that they must have been going through issues with the passing of their Grandma, but you shouldn’t be punished for that.

    If it makes you feel any better I’m moving too this month! Literally across the road from where I am now which seems so silly, but my letting agency are horrible and my flatmate leaves the place so messy :(. So glad you’ve found somewhere else – I know it’s more expensive but it’s so worth it to feel more secure.

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  22. amber says

    March 6, 2017 at 5:00 pm

    Oh I’m so sorry for the troubles you are facing now and I wish you the best of luck. Though we have never had to live with the landlord, we have had one that did cause a LOT of grief and it truly does put one on edge.

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  23. five little doves says

    March 6, 2017 at 5:12 pm

    Gosh what an awful situation to be in, it sounds like a nightmare! I hope that you find somewhere to settle where you are happy. xxx

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  24. Janel Berchielli says

    March 6, 2017 at 5:19 pm

    I’ve been very fortunate living here in California. It is sad the people were so mean and cruel to you. I hope your living conditions have improved since then.

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    • Janel Berchielli says

      March 6, 2017 at 5:20 pm

      lol I don’t know how that link got attached to my post.

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  25. Kusum says

    March 6, 2017 at 5:43 pm

    Ugh moving is surely a pain, hope all goes well for you! Love that floral print dress.

    xx, Kusum | http://www.sveeteskapes.com

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  26. Jo says

    March 6, 2017 at 6:39 pm

    Sorry to hear you’ve gone through this. I once lived in a flat where, a few months after moving in, I discovered blue mould in the built-in wardrobes where a lot of my clothes and shoes were kept. It was so damp in the flat even my wooden bed frame started going mouldy!

    For a few weeks I ended up sleeping in the living room on the floor with a small fan heater on as it was the only way to keep warm. I managed to find a flat share and I can remember the feeling of sleeping there the first night, with the heating on and being warm. It made me appreciate how important being warm and comfortable is.

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  27. sabrina barbante says

    March 6, 2017 at 6:50 pm

    finding a place to call home can be so hard… and I have changed 7 homes in 8 years so I know something about it… but I supposed in places such as London this is ever harder! Every home is a fresh new start, so keep our issues strong and enjoy your new adventure!

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  28. HilLesha says

    March 6, 2017 at 7:49 pm

    I have had a few bad landlords in my lifetime, but the ones you’ve described sound like a nightmare. I’m wishing you the best! No one should ever have to deal with anything like that.

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  29. Alina says

    March 6, 2017 at 7:51 pm

    That’s horrific, firstly to touch your things and secondly to offer you a place to live and then change their mind like that – how irresponsible and illegal too. It’s horrible to live in a place you don’t feel comfortable in and I really feel for you. The life of renting is hard on a lot of people but this is one of the worst I’ve heard – I hope you find your perfect home soon.

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  30. Amanda H says

    March 6, 2017 at 8:02 pm

    Oh my. That would really be so stressful. Moving really is the best option. The rent might be more, but it’s worth it for peace of mind and to know you are home, and not feeling like you’re invading someone else’s space.

    We lived in a 4 plex where our landlord wouldn’t fix anything. It was winter and we had no heat. I gave birth to my son, and we had space heaters in all the rooms. We also had mold that they refused to help get rid of. I was so happy to get out of there.

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  31. Author Brandi Kennedy says

    March 6, 2017 at 8:03 pm

    I am living a similar situation right now, I can testify to how demoralizing it is. Your post made me feel less alone – thank you.

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  32. Amanda says

    March 6, 2017 at 8:08 pm

    You had me enthralled throughout this entire post and I’m so very sorry that you have to deal with this. I have had to deal with this and I tell you it’s just as bad if not worse when it’s your own in-laws…this I know for a fact.

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  33. Melissa says

    March 6, 2017 at 8:54 pm

    I have been in our house for over 16 years so I have been lucky. You are so honest about your difficult situation and your writing is very expressive.

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  34. MELANIE EDJOURIAN says

    March 6, 2017 at 8:59 pm

    My goodness you have had a hard time with the different places you have stayed. I hope that the new place you move to is somewhere you can call home and feel more secure in.

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  35. Emma says

    March 6, 2017 at 9:09 pm

    This must be such a difficult situation for you. I hope you enjoy your new house and feel a lot more comfortable.

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  36. Anna nuttall says

    March 6, 2017 at 9:10 pm

    Oh i’m so sorry to hear this – you will find somewhere to live and it will make you happy. xx

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  37. Suzy Mccullough says

    March 6, 2017 at 9:26 pm

    That sounds so stressful and unfair. I hope you can find somewhere to call your happy home

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  38. Claudia Blanton says

    March 6, 2017 at 9:46 pm

    This sounds like truly deep emotional abuse, similar to what happens in many relationships – usually they are the spouse-spouse relationships that are this controlling and weird, but it does happen in all types of relationships. I am sorry, you had to go through this, and I hope that the new place will the one that makes you feel safe, so you can take care of yourself.
    I wish you the best!

    Blessings!

    Claudia
    http://withinthepagesofabook.com

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  39. Cath - BattleMum says

    March 6, 2017 at 10:44 pm

    OMG that sounds horrendous. I think you’ve made the right decision. That was no way to be living. I really hope your new place works out and let’s you settle into a home. I completely understand the stress of it. We’re about to sell up and move country (again) but with a toddler in tow and the stress is enormous. It’s taking a toll on us as a couple and my blog is suffering constantly as my mind is torn between packing/moving and blogging. I honestly can’t wait to just be there and have a free mind again. Best of luck with your move Ana x

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  40. Lyndsey O'Halloran says

    March 6, 2017 at 10:46 pm

    Oh Ana, what horrible situations you’ve been in. My sister lives in London and I’m so thankful she lives in okay places

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  41. Lindsey says

    March 6, 2017 at 10:56 pm

    Oh honey what stress a total nightmare! I am so glad you found somewhere new and landlord free that you could call you own.

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  42. Joanna @ Everyday Made Fresh says

    March 6, 2017 at 11:12 pm

    I have never had any housing nightmares, and so thankful now that I’ve read yours that I haven’t. I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through all of this. I’m sorry you had to move again, but I am so glad you found a place that hopefully you can call home! Your health is super important, don’t let anyone stand in the way!

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  43. Sondra Barker says

    March 6, 2017 at 11:20 pm

    Such an honest post, I hope that things keep getting better for you and I am glad you were able to walk away from that horrible situation. You are looking beautiful hun, I am loving that entire outfit!

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  44. Krystel @ Disney on a Budget says

    March 6, 2017 at 11:43 pm

    Wow what an absolutely terrible experience, I’m sorry you had to go through that. This new place is a new adventure and should be great!

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  45. Theresa says

    March 7, 2017 at 12:13 am

    Having a rental home can be the worst sometimes! It’s taken me forever, but I’ve finally found one that works great for me and my family.

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  46. Vicky says

    March 7, 2017 at 12:19 am

    Oh my gosh! That is crazy. Sorry you have been through the wringer and been treated like a yo-yo. It sounds like a bad situation for you and I hope you can find one where you can rest.

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  47. Tori says

    March 7, 2017 at 12:43 am

    I’ve had my share if nightmarish landlords before, it truly does suck the life out of you. Especially when the worry becomes “will I still have a home?”
    I hope this new place is perfect! Even when renting, you should always be comfortable where you are! Good luck!

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  48. GiGi Eats says

    March 7, 2017 at 1:00 am

    I have luckily never dealt with housing issues like this before. But this sounds like a bloody nightmare. Home is a sanctuary, a place for us to retreat to when we are stressed and just want to get away from it all, a place where we can sleep in peace… It should not be a place where more stress and sleepless nights occur. 🙁 I am sorry you went through all of this crap. I personally believe that there are certain things that are definitely worth paying a little more for, and housing is definitely one of them.

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  49. Megan at Lush to Blush says

    March 7, 2017 at 1:27 am

    Oh my gosh! What a nightmare! It’s so terrible when your living situation is so tense; you have nowhere to retreat! I’m so glad things have looked up for you. <3

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  50. Leah says

    March 7, 2017 at 1:55 am

    Wow, your pictures are so pretty but the story is so intense. I have never had to deal with living with landlords in my life. I lived with a friend for 6 months and that was enough for me to realise I like living on my own. I could not imagine how horrible it would be to feel so trapped. That is the stuff of nightmares. I am glad you have found somewhere better and don’t have to live with another family that awful! If my kids treated you the way that their kids treated you I would give them the sternest talking to. So disrespectful!!
    Good luck, and I will be following to see how you get on! 🙂
    ps: Love them boots!

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  51. Elizabeth O. says

    March 7, 2017 at 2:07 am

    I think it’s important that you find a house where you can feel at home in. This was quite an experience and i’m glad that you finally found your home after going through all of that! The house that you were living in previously was really like a nightmare.

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  52. Ali Rost says

    March 7, 2017 at 4:19 am

    Oh my goodness .. this is absolutely awful! I’m so sorry. I’ve never had a bad landlord .. although I have had a bad marriage. I remember feeling a lot of the feeling you described. Not feeling welcome .. tippy toeing around .. one day all was well and the next it wasn’t .. wanting to leave, know it was the right thing .. yet second-guessing myself. I remember what it was like to have a world where I felt ok and one where I didn’t. I’ve learned to follow my gut .. it never steers me wrong.

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  53. Richard Bivins says

    March 7, 2017 at 4:27 am

    Wow… you made the right decision to move out to another location. Your business is yours alone not your landlords or anyone’s for that matter. If you can’t enjoy the amenities of a home then it’s not a home.

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  54. Kerry norris says

    March 7, 2017 at 6:54 am

    Oh mug goodness. I can’t believe you have been through that. That’s not healthy for you to feel like a prisoner at all. I’m glad you’ve found somewhere new x

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  55. Tracy Morgan says

    March 7, 2017 at 7:43 am

    I spent many years living in other people’s houses and it is soul destroying, even if they are nice people. I need my own space and I used to be like you, rarely cooking, instead relying on takeaways and junk food I would eat in my room. Yes, you have made the right decision. Sometimes money is not our main priority – our happiness is, and I think you will be so much happier with somewhere you can be yourself!

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  56. The Travel Ninjas says

    March 7, 2017 at 8:14 am

    That was an awful situation. We’re so glad you’re getting out of their. You totally deserve a home where you feel safe and welcome.

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  57. stacey says

    March 7, 2017 at 8:29 am

    Jeez, this sucks. I haven’t had any situation this bad. I lived in a 4plex once and the guy across from our apartment was a jerk and complained about my kids a lot, but I found out he complained about everyone, so I just ignored him. Hope it gets better or you find a new flat.

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  58. Charlotte says

    March 7, 2017 at 8:34 am

    This sounds horrendous and definitely toxic, get out and get out now because you don’t need that kind of negativity in your life!

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  59. Sophie says

    March 7, 2017 at 9:15 am

    Oh my gosh what a nightmare for you! Sending you the best vibes!

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  60. melissa major says

    March 7, 2017 at 10:07 am

    Oh my goodness how awful, they shouldn’t of treated you like that! I am so glad you have found somewhere better to live now

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  61. Rachel says

    March 7, 2017 at 10:17 am

    It sounds as though you have had a total nightmare and I am glad you have found somewhere else, whether it is a box room, a shed or even the attic, you need somewhere that you feel you belong, somewhere you can feel free and somewhere that you can call your own x

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  62. nicol says

    March 7, 2017 at 10:53 am

    that is absolutely horrendous the way you was treated. i hope your new place brings you more joy

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  63. StressedMum says

    March 7, 2017 at 11:14 am

    What a totally horrific time you have had, your home should be somewhere you can relax and be yourself in, sounds like you made the right decision. I hope things just start to get better and better for you x

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  64. Elanor says

    March 7, 2017 at 11:17 am

    I’m so sorry to hear about all the trouble you’ve been having – I thought I had a nightmare flatmate once, but it’s nothing compared to what you have suffered! I hope everything works out well with your new place, no one should have to put up with everything that you’ve had to! 🙂

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  65. Kara says

    March 7, 2017 at 11:30 am

    Oh no, it all sounds like a nightmare. Do you not have anyone you can flat share with? Living with other people, especially strangers is tricky

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  66. Ali Clifford says

    March 7, 2017 at 11:37 am

    Oh Ana, this does sound uber stressful, I’ve been so fortunate with my housing situation, I can only sympathise – I really hope you will be settled soon x

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  67. Jemma says

    March 7, 2017 at 11:37 am

    So sorry to hear you’ve had such a rough time, onwards and upwards! I wish you every happiness in your new home 🙂

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  68. Helen says

    March 7, 2017 at 11:55 am

    What an awful situation that must be to live in. I don’t know how anyone could treat another person like that! So pleased to hear you’ve found somewhere better to live.

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  69. RaNesha says

    March 7, 2017 at 12:02 pm

    I am happy you find a new place to live. A peace place to rest is very important.

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  70. Stephanie Merry says

    March 7, 2017 at 12:03 pm

    What a horrible situation to be in! I’ve been lucky with my living situation to have not experienced this before x

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  71. Fiona Maclean says

    March 7, 2017 at 12:40 pm

    poor you! I haven’t rented for some years now, but I do remember it being a nightmare even then. Now, I think it is much worse. I hope where ever you are now is a lot nicer for you and that you can stay for a good period!

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  72. Peneloe says

    March 7, 2017 at 1:51 pm

    Goodness gracious that does sound awful, and what terrible luck to have two experiences back to back. I hope the next move brings you everything you hope for, including good health.

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  73. Борка Шаула says

    March 7, 2017 at 2:04 pm

    I am happy to hear you left that toxic place. A friend told me he stayed with some guy who owned a great apartment. They went on college together and the rent was a minimum but the place was awesome. It all seemed great at first but then he started talking bad things about him to his parents and other ridiculous stuff until one day my friend just couldn’t take it anymore and left.

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  74. Kim says

    March 7, 2017 at 3:44 pm

    That would give me a headache too. London seems like a great city, but dealing with a bad Land Lord isn’t fun at all. So sorry, girl!

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  75. Ruth I. says

    March 7, 2017 at 3:51 pm

    Oh no! It’s so horrible to stay in that kind of home. and to think you are paying for your stay. I do not know the culture in London but I still think it’s unfair to treat anyone like that. I sincerely want to know the progress, if you have moved to the new home and what are the changes. I wish you more success and peace.

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  76. Jessi Joachim says

    March 7, 2017 at 4:01 pm

    That sounds terrible! I can’t imagine a landlord being like that, maybe it is different than it is here. I did have one terrible experience where the locks were changed on me while I was at work. They took my things that had not been moved yet, as I was in the process of moving but still had 2 weeks until my lease was up. Some things were by the road, others they kept and would not return. They refused to let me enter, and even the cops told me I could break a window b/c it was still my legal residence at the time. They finally let me in to get what was mine, but by then they had hidden much of my stuff.

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  77. Amanda Love says

    March 7, 2017 at 4:34 pm

    We don’t always have good experiences especially when it comes to picking houses. It’s nice to know that you’re settled in a house that makes you feel comfortable unlike the ones that you lived in before.

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  78. Tanya Brannan says

    March 7, 2017 at 4:51 pm

    Oh honey, you really have been having the most horrible of times. I hope that your move into the new place is everything you want it to be, and you can be at peace and relax. I will keep everything crossed for you xx

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  79. Amelia Larsen says

    March 7, 2017 at 5:58 pm

    What an awful situation! Glad you’re somewhere better now.

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  80. Terri Beavers says

    March 7, 2017 at 6:26 pm

    What a terrible thing for you to have to go through. I can’t believe how mean people can be. I’ve experienced a housing nightmare before but it was with my neighbor and not my landlord.

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  81. Nayna Kanabar says

    March 7, 2017 at 7:03 pm

    Its so sad that you have had to endure so many problems with your landlord.I am glad you have managed to get another property that you will be happy living in.

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  82. Reesa Lewandowski says

    March 7, 2017 at 7:19 pm

    I am so sorry you had to go through such stress!!! Best of luck with your new place!!!

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  83. Ickle Pickle says

    March 7, 2017 at 7:42 pm

    Oh this is so horrible – I really feel for you and hope you will be happy and at peace in your new home. Kaz x

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  84. Fashion and Style Police says

    March 7, 2017 at 8:52 pm

    I am so sorry to hear about your housing issues. I hope you find somewhere that feels like home soon. Good luck Hun xx

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  85. Emma says

    March 7, 2017 at 9:12 pm

    This is such a horrific experience – I’m so sorry that you had to go through it – everyone should be able to have a place they can call home and feel safe in. Hopefully you’ll find somewhere where you feel happy and comfortable soon

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  86. Belle says

    March 7, 2017 at 9:19 pm

    I love this look so much! That fur coat with the little pops of color from your shirt and skirt is perfection! Your otk boots are pretty too!

    Belle | One Awesome Momma

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  87. Moderate Mum says

    March 7, 2017 at 9:41 pm

    That sounds like hell, I’m so sorry you had hato suffer that. I hate what the ridiculous mental market has done to the city I love.

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  88. Emma @ Adventures of a London Kiwi says

    March 7, 2017 at 9:41 pm

    This just sounds so stressful – what an awful situation to be stuck in! Hopefully this next move will help!

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  89. Megan says

    March 7, 2017 at 9:50 pm

    Moving is stressful enough without having to be in bad living situations. This all sounds horrible, I hope the new place is great.

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  90. Anvita says

    March 7, 2017 at 10:25 pm

    Moved 7 houses in 5 years for either because my jobs or my husbands, so I can relate to it. I hope you finally find a place soon where you can call it your home sweet home. Take care

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  91. Hey Sharonoox says

    March 8, 2017 at 12:36 am

    Sorry to hear that you had to go through all that with your landlord. Happy to hear that you’ve finally found a place that you really like. A quote to cheer you up … after a storm comes a calm!

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  92. Shelby Hohsfield says

    March 8, 2017 at 12:48 am

    I’m going to be honest, this is not the kind of post I normally read- but I read the whole thing! No skimming. You are a gifted writer to say the least. Out of your housing debokle has come some great writing- turn your pain into art!
    As for me, I lived in a sorority house- say no more…

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  93. Wanderlust Vegans says

    March 8, 2017 at 2:38 am

    I feel your pain. We have had a lot of terrible landlords in the past. We are also temporarily between houses, as we just moved from England to Canada. It sucks when you don’t have a place to call home.

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  94. Dawn McAlexander says

    March 8, 2017 at 2:44 am

    I used to live in a mobile home park where they charged me $100 a month for water. I own my own home now and my water bill is hardly even $30 a month, several years later. Also, I bought a new air conditioner and the landlord kept remarking that he really liked it. One day I came home to find the air conditioner was gone. I asked the landlord if he knew anything about it and he just gave me a sly look and said he didn’t. Two days later I saw him leaving in his pickup truck, with my air conditioner on the back.

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  95. Nay says

    March 8, 2017 at 6:22 am

    This is such a personal post and it made me cry. I have moved house a lot recently due to a relationship breakdown but I definitely remember feeling uncomfortable in what was supposed to be my own home. I now have the perfect space for me and I’m much happier here. Hope you find happiness in your new space.

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  96. Miss Kim @ behgopa says

    March 8, 2017 at 6:58 am

    What you went through sounds awful. You are a strong soul. Fortunately, I never had to go through what you had gone through, so I can’t relate. But the rent prices here in LA are insane these days. I don’t know how kids fresh out of college or young adults can even afford anything anymore!

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  97. Ana Ojha says

    March 8, 2017 at 7:01 am

    Sorry to hear that you went through all these nightmares! Hope you get settled at your new place and don’t have to meet with such kind of buggers again! And most important thing is — never stop eating no matter how bad the circumstances are! Try to take a good care of yourself gal!
    Hugs!

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  98. Annie B says

    March 8, 2017 at 7:26 am

    Goodness! I would bloody hate that! I used to hate sharing at uni with others because of this sort of thing. I bet they just wanted the money but not the person essentially. Wise move getting out lovely!

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  99. chichi says

    March 8, 2017 at 9:23 am

    thank you for putting such an honest post Ana, I haven’t rented but very recently stayed with a friend for 2 nights who made me feel horrible, i was taken aback as she had invited me to stay over many times and when i finally came, it was a horror story!

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  100. Iza Abao, Two Monkeys Travel Group Writer says

    March 8, 2017 at 9:30 am

    I have not had an issue with a landlord but I had problems with my neighbors. I was living in a mixed neighborhood years ago. There were a lot of people who got drunk and played really loud music until early morning. I stayed there for 2 years because it was near to my workplace and accessible to a lot of places. I went to my parents’ house every weekend because I wanted to escape that place and have a peace of mind. Thankfully, that was over.

    Btw, you look great! Where do you shop?

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  101. The London Mum says

    March 8, 2017 at 9:56 am

    Sounds like a nightmare. Have you tried looking for houses with rooms going with other people your age? That would be a much nicer experience for you.

    I think you just need to move as many times as it takes until you find that place you ca call home.

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  102. Rose Sahetapy says

    March 8, 2017 at 10:30 am

    My goodness! That’s horrible! Nobody deserves to be treated like that! Some people are just so selfish and mean. I really hope that your new home will be the home that you long for.

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  103. Dannii says

    March 8, 2017 at 10:38 am

    So sorry that you are going through this. I have lived in a lot of shared houses before, so I know how hard they can be.

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  104. Natalia says

    March 8, 2017 at 12:14 pm

    wtf! why some people are like this!? I’m sorry to hear that you struggled this match, you are a very strong person. I hope your new place is much better, you deserve x

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  105. Ashleigh says

    March 8, 2017 at 12:29 pm

    AH, sounds super stressful but will be worth it in the end. Also, I love that skirt!

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  106. Emily Leary says

    March 8, 2017 at 12:50 pm

    Moving, and then moving again and again, in such a short amount of time sounds hellish, glad to hear your new place is such an improvement!

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  107. fashionmommy says

    March 8, 2017 at 12:54 pm

    Your experiences have been terrible, I have only ever lived with my family and then my husband so can’t even imagine how you cope.

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  108. Anna says

    March 8, 2017 at 1:45 pm

    I’m glad you have ultimately decided to leave. Those people were not good, they were greedy evil motherf*ckers. No one deserves to be treated they way they treated you. I just wish you went to the council and told them that they are renting. xxx

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  109. Sarah says

    March 8, 2017 at 2:19 pm

    Oh lovely. I’m so sorry, this sounds so awful. And you are right, this is no way to live. Barely surviving. Glad you’ve found somewhere better!

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  110. jolene says

    March 8, 2017 at 2:33 pm

    Ah it sounds like you had a nightmare in your old place.. I hope your much happier now

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  111. Ali - We Made This Life says

    March 8, 2017 at 2:41 pm

    It must be weird to rent out a room in your house to a stranger but they did it and there’s no reason to make you feel uncomfortable. Move out, it’s their loss of rent money and a decent tenant. They should learn to be nicer to the next one.

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  112. Heather says

    March 8, 2017 at 2:48 pm

    This sounds absolutely miserable and I’m glad you followed what felt right to get out. I have been in a very bad living situation but it was many years ago and before I met my husband, thankfully it’s in the past! Your look gorgeous and I love those boots.

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  113. Blythe Alpern says

    March 8, 2017 at 10:38 pm

    What a total nightmare. So glad you are getting out. Home should be a place of comfort not torture. I had a horrible roommate once who thought it was okay to let her nephew break my collectibles. She also locked her door so I could never use the laundry, which was in her room. She was rude as well, and never bought a single thing for the apartment. She expected me to buy napkins, TP, etc. I was so glad when I finally left.

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  114. Helena says

    March 8, 2017 at 11:53 pm

    Its horrible to hear what you have gone through!

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  115. Rachel says

    March 9, 2017 at 12:16 am

    Oh Ana! I can’t believe all the shit you’ve had to deal with! I’m so glad you’ve found a new place to live – Best of luck with the move! xo

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  116. Keren Charles says

    March 9, 2017 at 2:32 am

    So sorry you had to deal with that horrific situation. Hope that things workout and you feel and great as that outfit looks.

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  117. Jolynn Acres says

    March 9, 2017 at 4:51 am

    Oh my! I couldn’t imagine these conditions! You are so brave to take control of YOU and MOVE OUT! I hope you next chapter brings more peace and love! What a horrific experience you had to endure!

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  118. Carol Cassara says

    March 9, 2017 at 10:08 am

    It’s a rough experience, what you went through until you found your current house! I’m glad that you’re out of that hell though. It’s nice to finally find a home that you feel comfortable in.

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  119. Brian says

    March 9, 2017 at 11:52 am

    Have you heard the RUSH song “Subdivisions”? It describes a bored suburban your yearning for the excitement of “the city.” Your post really highlights the downside, but I think anyone who is curious should know what you’ve been experiencing. Are you considering leaving London?

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  120. alittlechinwag says

    March 9, 2017 at 1:55 pm

    As they say…there is light at the end of the tunnel. You housing experience before sounded stressful so i’m glad you finally found your “home sweet home” and I wish you all the best for future house pursuits. We can sometimes take for granted some of the living privileges we have, it’s all when we’re in a poor living condition that we fully appreciate what we had. I’m happy, you’re in a house you like. 🙂

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  121. Rachel says

    March 10, 2017 at 12:42 am

    You have had some insane experiences with horrible people! I hope you find a place where you can cook whenever and get to a good place.

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  122. Lianne says

    March 10, 2017 at 3:39 pm

    What a stressful time! I hope moving goes well for you!

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  123. Rosana @ Hot&CHilli Food and Travel Blog says

    March 12, 2017 at 10:39 pm

    This is completely utterly crazy situation to be in. I wish you luck on your new home.

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  124. Lauretta @ Home and Horizon says

    March 13, 2017 at 12:46 am

    Crikey – it seems like you’ve been through the mill with the landlords…just goes to show doesn’t it? I hope you find somewhere great to call your own!

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  125. melanie says

    March 13, 2017 at 6:19 am

    Sounds stressful…home should be a place of sanctuary, glad you are on the up now. btw you look fab!!! 🙂 Thank you for sharing Happy Monday 🙂 x

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  126. Lubka Henry says

    March 13, 2017 at 4:07 pm

    I know how stressful and exhausting moving house can be, especially in London. After living there for 6 years, I had my fair share and now I only want to go for short trips, but don’t want to live in the capital any more.
    Hope you settle in a place and don’t need to move for long time.

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  127. Becca says

    March 14, 2017 at 10:55 am

    Sorry to hear you’re having to move again hun – hopefully it’ll get better in your new place!! x

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  128. Anosa says

    March 15, 2017 at 5:12 pm

    Looking for a place to stay is as hard as looking for your dream job. You have to consider a lot of things. Good thing you were able to have your own place.

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  129. Katie Kinsley says

    March 15, 2017 at 10:17 pm

    I never really feel like that when I am at home because I do not have children and I am not home all day. I do get that angsty feeling when I am done driving home – stop and go, stop and go. Ugh.

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  130. Sabina Sher says

    March 16, 2017 at 2:40 pm

    Personally, I feel that you shouldn’t be surrounded by such negative energy & if you continue to live there, they’ll such all the energy out of you. Get out of there & get your health back on track lovely xx

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  131. Natalie Redman says

    March 19, 2017 at 7:18 pm

    Finding a place to live is so scary especially when you are in London! You have to be really careful not to find yourself living in some place awful.

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  132. Laura Beresford says

    March 29, 2017 at 3:22 pm

    I hope you have found somewhere that can be YOUR space, if not then good luck! I’m sorry you despise your job, could blogging become something fulltime? Or fashion?

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  133. David Elliott says

    May 19, 2017 at 4:03 pm

    Living situations can be awful. Even living with people you care about beforehand, once you move in with them things can begin to change. Expectations and all sorts of things become involved. It’s rough. I am glad that you were able to get out of there.

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