Mirror Mirror on the wall who is the fairest of them all? Why Pebble Grey of course, only the most fabulous mirror specialists to hit the town yet! Home to mirrors that would make Audrey Hepburn proud, their mirrors would not be out of place in any celebrities home. But wait, what about us normals who yearn for a slice of star power? To get a chance to use mirrors to our advantage and create a fantasy world which exists only in the planes of our mind is a secret that only you can cultivate. You could be a star, escape into the world of a starlet, embedded or interwoven in the glass fragments that become your special mirror. Would you become someone else or would you stay yourself, peering into the elements that make up your soul? To me mirrors hold a rather cynical significance, for years I would avoid mirrors because all I saw were the flaws that the bullies would take great delight in pointing out; the too large nose, the less than flawless skin, the petite frame and ‘unfeminine characteristics’ but what the hell is femininity anyway? In my eyes ‘feminine’ is just a patriarchal construct designed to make us feel insecure and feel pressure to conform to an archetypal ‘Angel in the House’ cardboard cut out stereotype which doesn’t exist anyway. Over the years my attitude towards the way I looked and perception of mirrors changed and suddenly for the first time in my 23 years on earth I saw beauty. I saw a woman who had battled her way through the tumbleweeds of life and won to claim her place on earth. In each mirror I saw something different about myself, something that I liked instead of hated for once.
Learning to change the way I felt about mirrors was a difficult process to undertake but I am so glad that I came out the other side smiling. My relationship with mirrors may have started out as destructive but once started as a negative has just become a positive. Because lets face it, mirrors might show us our flaws and heighten our insecurities but if you look beyond your issues you will find a map, your own personal narrative that is not defined by how you see yourself but how others view you instead. I was always told that I was unattractive growing up and then something changed. I went to uni and suddenly I was seen as beautiful, no one was calling me ugly or laughing at me because I didn’t fit into their pigeon-holed mold of beauty.
I was beautiful and for the first time I felt it, I couldn’t stop looking at myself in mirrors and took photos to document this turning point in my mirror narrative. I was called narcissistic but truth was I was just learning how I looked in the eyes of others and it was a feeling that I liked very much. Of course over the years my self-esteem hit rock bottom again and there is still moments to this day where I don’t feel beautiful and its a hard emotion to deal with but at least I no longer avoid mirrors. If you run away from your problems and insecurities then how can you ever get better? I have one mirror in my room that I use to decide on outfit combinations but I want a mirror that can tell a story and capture memories before they are lost in the clasp of greedy time. I want a mirror that shows me that my flaws, my imperfections are not weaknesses but the traits that make me beautiful. My teeth are not straight, my hair not perfect, my figure infamously boyish but are these imperfections or quirks that make me stand out from the crowd?
Truth be told I have been dreaming about getting an illuminated mirror that will light up my room like the Hollywood lights and help me embrace myself exactly as I am. Self-confidence starts at the root of your issues and if my issue is seeing past my flaws than an illuminated mirror like Pebble Grey’s Brio LED Illuminated Bathroom Mirror will surely make me see how others view me? The lights might magnify my less than white smile but will it also show me my laughing eyes, my youthful dimples and my tanned skin? The answer is a resounding yes, when my relationship with mirrors was at its most destructive I was asked a question that I would ask myself for years to come ‘what is your favourite feature’? At the time I found it difficult to appreciate how I looked because the only version of beauty I had been fed was that of blonde, blue eyed buxom beauties whereas I was a tanned petite brunette without curves which to them was considered ‘un-beautiful’. I know now that we are all beautiful in our own ways and even if society might not agree beauty is universal and everchanging. If we asked an Indonesian what was ‘beautiful to them’ their answer might be very different to an American’s response and so on. Thing is we should all tell ourselves how beautiful we are each day, because feeling down when noone compliments you is an unhealthy emotion to have and I tell you that from experience. Whether its a mantra or a daily routine where you take time to appreciate yourself, just tell your mirror one thing… I am beautiful.
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