In a world conditioned by ‘catfishing’ , ‘ghosting’ and ‘breadcrumbing’ , when it comes to ‘modern dating’ it goes without saying that dating in a society characterized by an enslavement to technological devices can result in dates which are clearly not worth your time. From those who do not make their intentions clear from the offset, and might be looking for something a ‘little more casual’, to someone that says the ‘right things over text’ but is completely different in person, without access to video, we can never be entirely sure exactly what surprise we may be in for when we go on our date. Which is where the revolutionary new dating app called Meetchu comes in, a dating app that seeks to prevent against catfishing and other dating disasters, by introducing a video feature , with integrated Voice and Video calling, allowing you to securely Voice or Video call your Matches without having to give your phone number. So let’s say that you have been really connecting with someone over messages but the video might have confirmed the lack of chemistry, it helps clearly define what you may be after in a relationship or even what you expect from a potential date. After all video calls are a great way of determining whether there is a connection and attraction you can pursue with the person whom you are speaking to.
A play on words ‘Meetchu‘ refers to being able to ‘meet your date’ before you potentially meet in person, and while it has the standard emoji messenger that you can use to communicate, the video call might be the next step you use to ease any awkwardness or nerves that you have before the first date. From personal experience, now that I have got used to going on dates, I don’t find them nerve wracking or as uncomfortable as I used to find them and it is largely because I have established how important it is to relax and just enjoy the spontaneity of the moment, and yet as someone who has been stood up, catfished and led on in the past, an interactive feature like a video call might be a better way for me to determine whether someone is the right guy for me. After all we live in a culture which is conditioned by a ‘swipe right and left system’ which seems to apply in ‘real life’ as well because we know that we have a pick of ‘other singletons’ in the dating world, and are not making a real effort to try and get a second date on the cards. As for catfishing, hands up who has turned up to a date, confused as to where your match is, when the person sitting in front of you definitely doesn’t look like his passport photo. While I am lucky to have only been catfished once, I have been stood up, which a video call might have helped to eliminate.
It might sound simplistic to suggest that an app with an integrated ‘video call feature’ might revolutionize how we choose people to date, but I believe that the sound of ‘someones voice’, the way they speak and how closely they resemble their photos online will establish their authenticity. Plus let us not forget how easy it is to carefully ‘curate’ and ‘cultivate’ our words over text or within an app’s messenger, whereas in a video, you are animated, colourful and whilst nervous, are a more authentic, more personality driven version of yourself, not ‘carefully’ editing the way you come across to your match. And when we forget to edit ourselves and let ‘our personality’ do the talking, ultimately we can secure the perfect match for ourselves. Not everyone is going to be what you are looking for, neither will all first dates end in a potential second date, but the main thing is being able to eliminate any barriers that are in our way before our date i.e. how can we be sure they are not a catfish, which Meetchu most definitely helps to achieve.
Despite how dating apps have changed over the years (and believe me I have tried enough to get me a job as a dating guru or agony aunt), the art of finding your perfect match should not be ‘complicated’ or make you go through hoops and hurdles to even get a shot at finding love, and while some apps rely on gimmicks like the ‘swipe left or right feature’, there is really no need to over complicate love, at least not at first. Then again you might point out lovingly, with a cheeky grin that I have no position on the authority considering how long I have been single for but there you go. It is rare for me to get past the second club and while it is in part because of the ‘convenience’ of the swipe right, swipe left formula’ it is also because on a first date, we are trying to fill in the silences with what I like to call ‘awkward date chat’, trying to find common ground and struggling to keep the conversation flowing.
Largely when I dated in the past, it would be through meeting people in organic environments like ‘school’, work and at bars and clubs, with environments like work and school allowing me to date people who I did not have an initial attraction but over time slowly developed into something more. But now that online dating apps have taken over the way we try and find love is different, we swipe right, we go on the date and in most cases never hear from our date again. And as I am someone who is a ‘slow burner’ it takes time for me to be attracted to someone, which is why being able to video and chat to dates before first dates is a great idea for me, as it allows me to get on the level with my potential date and not only get a feel for their personality, but also gauge how I may come across to guys that I am interested in. With a lack in self-confidence I know that I often ‘over-compensate’ for how introverted I feel, by becoming a ‘louder, more energetic version of myself’ or ‘extra and goofy ‘ as you might call it, which makes me seem intimidating to people I go on dates with, but I also think this is largely because I keep a guard up as well and don’t let anyone in too easily. So the concept of Meetchu and the simplicity of just videoing yourself conversing with your future Instagram Husband (joke) will help break down any barriers and help you feel truly comfortable with each other, before you decide as to whether you really are ‘interested in meeting each other’.
So while it is all too easy to be like Hansel And Gretel and start learning the ‘dark act’ of Breadcrumbing (sending flirty but non committal messages to keep a potential date interested), why not make it clear to your first date exactly what you are after (whether that be casual hookups, a long term relationship or holiday romance) so that no one is being led on from the offset. And if they don’t want to jump on a video call, it might simply mean that they are either not interested in you or are just shy, so its up to you to figure out as to which direction their mind is heading. As for those cynics who claim that ‘dating apps’ are not the way to meet potential partners, there is a perfect match for us all-whether that be online or in person- and no matter how much time it takes to find the one, I promise you that even a jaded dating veteran like myself can believe in the concept of soulmates. One thing I will also add is how important it is to ‘have chemistry’ with first dates which can often be difficult to gauge through the traditional messaging feature of the app, as their ‘vibe’ can be completely different in person . Whereas Meetchu’s safe video call feature allows you to speak to your crush asking each other questions and allowing the conversation to flow naturally, determining whether there is any possibility of a ‘spark’. I will say that even if you are unsure as to whether you have chemistry with someone, its important to give them a chance, and you can even reference that first ‘video call’ as an ice breaker. Who said that ‘Meetchu’ wasn’t a Matchmaker?
What Are Your Thoughts On Dating Apps That Allow You To Video Call Potential Dates?
Please note this is a collaborative post but all thoughts and opinions are my own and are not representative of Meetchu’s own values.
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