Would you believe me if I said I hadn’t gone on a date in five months? Or that I scroll halfheartedly and flick between dating apps like Tinder and POF, because I am bored of the same predictable messages, where guys think that ‘Hi’ or ‘let’s fuck’ is an appropriate way to message someone? And don’t even get me started on trying to find guys at the bar; despite how I might appear online, I have never made any attempts to conceal how ‘socially awkward’ I am and when it comes to someone of the opposite sex trying to proposition me, I clam up and go full frontal ‘ice queen’. In short, I find it hard to get past the ‘second date club‘ and find myself often being the third wheel in clubs, bars and events because A. I am probably too fussy and don’t give people a chance, B. Find it hard to let my guard down for fear of rejection and C. have self confidence issues.
In fact the last date that I went on was with a guy who was not my usual type but who I ended up liking because he had a great personality. We ended up going on two dates and the second one was a super intense date at his house. And no we didn’t sleep together if that is what you are thinking; there was no chemistry but I did end up staying over because I missed the last train home. Queue an awkward morning after chat and an even more awkward text once I had gone, going into great expanses of detail as to why he was not attracted to me in any shape or form. Safe to say my pride was a little hurt but not because I liked him-although I thought I did- but because it was another case of someone ‘finding something wrong with me’. And while I have been asked out on other dates and have been using dating apps, I still haven’t found someone who I ‘click with’. Which is why when I found out that a ‘new dating app’ called pear (and yes no capital letters) was designed on the premise ‘ of science being able to find you your perfect match’, I was intrigued to say the least. Besides, I had nothing to lose and as long as I wouldn’t find any fuckwits who were just after one thing, I saw no harm in testing the app out.
Developed by Daniele Condorelli and David Petersen in May 2016, the company was born when Daniele,a researcher, and David, an entrepreneur, met in San Francisco, thanks to an AirBnB stay. Both Daniele and David had been mulling over whether mathematics and a Nobel-Prize-winning algorithm to create a dating app could potentially ‘change the dating game’ and thus ‘Algorithm Matching LTD’ (the company behind pear) was born. But how on earth would a new app like pear be able to differentiate itself from competitors like Tinder and POF? Well unlike Tinder ‘ there would not be a swipe right/left feature’, instead pear would use a comparison feature, which would allow you to choose between two accounts and by double clicking on the chosen account, you would ‘rank up’ their account. Plus another cool feature is that if you see an account that you are just not interested in or feel like it is a spam account you can either ‘report the account if it is spam’ and ‘hold and swipe right’ to take that account out, meaning that they will no longer come up in your comparison matches.
But just how well did pear perform in finding me true love? Well, I have to admit it is too soon to tell, as it was only officially launched a week ago, but from what I have seen so far, I would say that I much prefer the way it creates matches as opposed to Tinder or POF, who seems to match you with anyone, including that creepy neighbor you filed a restraining order against. Yes him, the one with the bushy mustache and the beady eyes. But all jests aside I found that there was a strange sort of satisfaction in watching the app use its award winning algorithm to ‘guess’ what my ideal type is. It was fascinating watching it bring up ‘my most ranked up profiles’ and having to think hard between two profiles that I really liked- a ‘game of dates’ as opposed to game of thrones, if you will. As a Libra we all know that I am terrible at making decisions, so having an app that can help me make the right choice and not go for the same f**kboys that I am used to falling for, is proving to be a welcome change. Lets just hope this fusspot aka me can find her Prince who is a naughty gentleman with a heart of gold and not a fuckboy who wants to just f**k.
As pear is new, you might find that you might not be able streamline age ranges, like you would on Tinder and POF, so you might be comparing ‘pears’ that might be older or younger than what you might normally go for, but I wouldn’t necessarily say that this is a bad thing and will most likely improve with time. Besides as someone who doesn’t usually date anyone younger than me and tends to go for men between 28-40- yes I like older men and not because I want to be ‘a sugar baby’, I just think that they are more mature- I might find that I match with someone who might be younger or older than I would go for on pear and find that it was the best decision that I could have ever made! Who knows it might even be a blessing in disguise and while I have high standards because I am not going to settle for any ol’ pear, maybe being a little more relaxed about my age requirements, might help me find the one.
Another redeeming quality that pear had to offer, was how there were no ‘long ass questionnaires’ that you had to fill in to find the one or even creepy messages from five billion men, who would either tell me crap like ‘ I wish I was invisible so I could watch you get undressed’ or tell me that they were looking for a f**kbuddy and I looked like the perfect woman for the ‘job’. Sorry mate not happening. So I was grateful that there were no losers who just wanted to get their dick wet, and while there might have been the ‘odd spam profile’, the majority of the users seemed to be pretty normal to me. And let me tell you that is high praise considering the loons I have been dealing with on POF and Tinder, so a big bravo and cheers to pear.
While I liked the simple user format, it was the concept of ‘pears’ – a play on words referring to pairs’ that appealed to me the most. Because unlike Tinder,where you are matched with so many people that it creates ‘congestion’, meaning that you are matched to so many people who are unlikely to message you back, by using a comparison feature where the mathematical formula analyzes patterns in your preferences, in the long run more meaningful matches will be created. So if there is someone on the app who really likes you and continues to rank your ‘profile’ as their first choice and you do the same in return, eventually pear will establish that a ‘pear-fect match’ will be created. Otherwise known as a deferred-acceptance algorithm, pear produces matches that are both ‘mathematically stable’ and attuned to what it has deemed to be your perfect match. Sadly for me, my prince still lies in slumber but despite not finding true love with pear yet, I remain optimistic that over time, as the app’s user pool increases, I will find that going on a date with someone who likes me as I am, will not be an impossible obstacle to overcome.
For now though, I’m so single that I don’t even know what a boy is anymore. I’m so single that looking at couples making out on the train makes me want to puke and don’t even get me started on ‘rom coms’ where the protagonist manages to find her ‘Prince Charming’ and they live happily ever after. Yet I can’t even get a guy to even ask me out on a date LOL. Now that is what real life looks like. So guys on pear, if you are after someone, who likes to think that she is ‘funny’, sees food as the way to her heart and would like nothing more than movies on the couch while we pig out on pizza and popcorn than I’m your gal. But if you’re after a girl who looks insta glam all the time, then sorry mate I don’t look like that all the time. In fact truth be told,9 times out of 10 I am make up free, have wild hair that looks like it has escaped from the zoo and like to burrow away in my woman cave, otherwise known as my room, where I can escape from humanity.
What Are Your Thoughts On Using Maths To Find True Love And Would You Download Pear?
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