Lets face it the dating world is rough; you meet fuckboys (or fuckgirls) at every turn, are ‘ghosted’ by people you date and are ‘hyped’ by people who use you to find the one. I have been in the dating game long enough to witness the evolution of dating trends and the difference between when I first started dating and now is quite incredible. When I first started dating, I met my boyfriends through mutual friends, school and after school clubs yet now it seems impossible to find someone outside of the ‘virtual world’. I used to be so against the concept of online dating but moving to London showed me an entirely different ‘dating climate’.
I was so used to finding guys at work or at school that moving to London completely unprepared me for the dating scene. Not only did I work in an industry dominated by women but I also struggled to find guys that A. didn’t want to just use me for sex, B. already had a girlfriend but wanted to have their cake and eat it and C. saw me as their rebound chick. So I did what any sane person would do and re-joined dating sites, bravely signing myself up to countless dates. I saw the good, the bad and the ugly but one thing I didn’t think I would see was a ‘change of perspective’. I had been so adamant that ‘online dating’ was for people who couldn’t get a boyfriend/girlfriend that I failed to see the bigger picture. Living in London taught me that it is okay to be searching for love online and in fact it is pretty normal.
However while the benefits of online dating is vast, there are also some setbacks that can make you think what the fuck have I signed myself up to. So give it up to my trusty alter ego Jasmine who will show you 10 terms that will A. help you up your dating game, B. watch out for all the weirdos and C. realize your own self worth. Let’s face it, people use you for a reason and no it’s not you but them. If someone can’t keep it in their pants long enough and blames you for their own inability to commit then its sure as hell not your fault.
1.Breadcrumbing
Once upon a time there lived a girl called Gretel who joined forces with her bro ‘Hanzel’ to steal the candy from the old witches house and left breadcrumbs in their wake, to find their way back home. Except like all fairytales that story is a myth; instead Gretel and Hanzel were ‘seeing each other’, mainly over text, when Gretel caught Hanzel sexting ‘Tinderella’. She screamed and raged and oh how Hanzel lamented, ‘I will never do it again’ he cried. Except Hanzel was about to commit a crime 10 times worse and that was ‘breadcrumbing’. Hanzel was feeling hungry and Gretel was just another ‘plaything’ in a collection of other women and his texts to Gretel was becoming fewer and further in between. But what the hell has that have to do with ‘breadcrumbs’ I hear you ask? Well put simply someone who sends ‘suggestive texts’ with minimum effort and usually quite sporadically. They don’t blow hot and cold either, instead like Hanzel they send ‘non-committal’ text messages (otherwise known as breadcrumbs), which Gretel has to ‘follow’ , tricking her into thinking that there is a chance of a relationship.
2. Cushioning
You thought breadcrumbing was bad, wait until you hear what ‘Cushioning’ is. Spare a tear for these poor sods aka the ‘cushions’. The cushions are in a relationship with a fuckboy or fuckgirl who is meant to be ‘seriously committed to them’ and yet these f***ers have ‘cushions all around them’ as backup, who they text, flirt with, have sex with or even date at the same time as ‘seriously’ dating someone else. I used to be someone’s cushion and it f***ing sucked. I was in a relationship with a guy called B who took drugs and used me as both his rebound chick and personal cushion. While we had been seeing each other for a while before we actually dated, once we actually dated he would send ‘breadcrumbs’ to other girls and use them as ‘backup cushions’ in case our relationship didn’t work out. Inevitably it wasn’t long before I cracked on to my f**kboy of a boyfriend cheating on me with other girls and even walked into one situation where he was having sex with my friend and then pretended nothing had happened. The irony was that the friend then turned out to be gay so clearly he was her ‘cushion’ or ‘hype man’ for her next relationship. Even better when I confronted my boyfriend he told me that he couldn’t help it because he was ‘high on magic mushrooms’. Boy bye.
The truth was he was A. not over his ex, as he liked to remind me everytime we were getting intimate and B. was using me as a hypeman, while having his personal ‘backup cushions’ around him in case things went tits up with me. The worst thing is that I had to pretend to be civil to this jackass as we worked together.
3.Hyping
Ah ‘hyping’ if only I knew what this term was last year, then I might have actually saved myself some pain and torment. But now, thanks to my favourite dating blogger Vix Meldrew, who coined the term ‘hyping’, I realized that so many of my exes used me as a ‘hypeman’ before they moved onto the main course aka the girl who would birth their babies, marry them and be the wifey they had always dreamed of having. There was this guy I was seeing, lets call him C who was a lot older than me but suffering from daddy and mummy issues. As someone who was broken in that department too I thought that the nicest thing to do was help him through the pain, after all I knew how much it blowed to have shitty parents. Except what I didn’t know was this guy was just hyping me because once he had his fill, he got bored and disappeared. Next thing I knew he was getting married and it was like a punch in the stomach. I had long got over him but still it hurt to see him move on without having told me what had got wrong in the first place. Whatever happened to the guy who said he didn’t want to get married, have kids or fully commit. In fact he never once called me his girlfriend, if anything we were more ‘friends with benefits’ except without the friends part. I had been the perfect hypeman to get him warmed up and clearly he found his dessert to be a little sweeter haha.
4. Fuckboys/ Fuckgirls
I think I have written enough about fuckboys for you to know what they are but if your new to the blog then let Jasmine give you the lowdown. Essentially fuckboys and fuckgirls are men and women who use their partners without giving anything in return. Whether that be a fuckboy who is using you for sex or to make themselves look better, these ‘fuck-people’ are all about numbero uno. While B was a terrible fuckboy for cheating on me and using me as his ‘hypeman’, ‘cushion’ and rebound chick, the worst fuckboy was S who deliberately attempted to pursue a relationship with me, despite already having a girlfriend, who he’d been in a relationship with for a few years. Picture the scene, a smoky low-lit bar and the most drop dead gorgeous man comes in and before we know it hours have sped by. I spent a few weeks in a delirious state of lust, that was until I stumbled upon his IG and Twitter, both of which I didn’t have at the time. Turns out he had a long term girlfriend and the worst thing is how she was always posting about what a perfect boyfriend he was. Not only did I cut all ties but I also asked my friend-who had those social networks- to message the girl and explain what this fuckboy had been up to. Safe to say he had no happy ending and this girl was free to find a Prince Charming who had eyes for her only.
5. Tuning
Imagine you have a ‘potential mate’ in mind, so you start liking all their photos, retweeting their statuses and doing as many things as possible to get that persons attention. If you’re the tuner then you have full control and have the leverage to make the first move, However if you are the one who has a boyfriend who is ‘getting tuned by their ex’ or a potential love interest that is threatening to overcome your relationship, then that is an entirely different ball game. Lets call the tuner Amy, Amy broke up with your ex David a few months ago and now you’re with David. Things are going well at first, until you see that Amy is suddenly liking your boyfriend’s photos and sending him suggestive social interactions that are frankly quite insulting. Let’s face it if anyone is going to have sex with your boyfriend it’s you, ya know the ‘actual girlfriend’.
In some cases ‘tuning’ might not always refer to an ex being the tuner, instead tuning can also reference a guy or girl who you might have shared meaningless sex with or nothing at all and now suddenly they are acting all crazy by trawling through your Facebook archives circa 2012 and liking that one photo of you getting hammered at that party you can’t remember. Its weird, its creepy, just don’t do it.
6. Layby
Similar to cushioning, the Layby is a guy or girl who is in a relationship but wants out. Except much like the ‘cushion’ they are uncomfortable being single and thus start lining up ‘options’ who they might date next. I have been-and I am ashamed to say this- both the ‘layby’ and the victim. When I was younger I was uncomfortable with being single because I had issues with self-confidence and thus dated men who would treat me like dirt. When I wanted ‘out’ with that guy, I had already unintentionally laid out the groundwork for the next boyfriend but not in the way you might think either. I was with a guy called A. who liked me more than I ever liked him but I didn’t know it at the time. Eventually it felt like all he wanted to do was just stay home and have sex and I had enough. Meanwhile B- yes remember him- was making a play for me but as I was still in relationship I did not encourage him (I have never cheated on anyone and don’t plan to either). However I did moan to B about A and even moaned to his friend L about my boyfriend and how I thought I would break up with him. Within a day of breaking up with A, B. was there trying to get into my pants because I had become the layby. I ended up seeing him for a while before fully dating him but I still feel guilty about how quickly I had jumped into a new relationship, especially when I had told A. I had loved him when I didn’t.
7. Zombie-ing
Imagine you had an ex boyfriend, an ex friends with bens or an ex-fuck( whether that be a one or two time thing) who you ended things with a long time ago and then like the ‘ghost of Christmas past’ the ‘ghost’ tries to insert themselves back into their ‘ex-lovers life’. The ghost tries to worm their way back into your affections like a ‘zombie’ rising from the dead. The actual process of zombie-ing involves the ex something or other sending messages to start with before liking statuses and tweets. While it might seem like the ex is tuning you because they are horny, it might be because they are genuinely missing you and want to ‘get back together’. Except its never a good idea getting back with a ghost that is zombie-ing you because chances are they will go back to ‘ghosting you’ again. I remember there was a guy called J and we’d ‘see each other’ but in truth we were both using each either. Me because I was being a ‘Layby’ and didn’t want to be single and him because well he just wanted to get his dick wet. One day, he quite literally disappeared and I never heard from him again until last year where he started liking my photos before sending me messages saying how much he missed me. Thankfully I gave this zombie the boot and confined him to my ‘ex closet’ where he belonged.
8. Exing
Exing is quite self-explanatory; whether it be that you are not over your ex, are obsessed with talking about your ex to your current beau or use your ex to create drama because you crave ‘drama’ then you are ‘exing’ your partner. I have never been guilty of ‘exing’ my partner but exes have been guilty of ‘exing me’. B- the junkie, bad news ex used me to get back at his ex ‘G’ because he was never over her, but she was over him. He would always ‘favorably’ compare me to his ex, saying how much better I was than her but when he started saying what she would ‘do in the bedroom’ I balked. He wanted me to turn into a replica of G, all down to the things I wore, the role plays we carried out or even the conversations we had. Let me tell you something, it was fucking weird and I didn’t realize how weird it was until years later. Ladies and gentlemen, if you are getting ‘exed’ by your partner it probably means that they are not over their ex so shantayyy do not stay. This is not RuPauls Best Friend Race!
9. Catch and Release
Imagine the hunter stalking its prey and you have the basic premise of the ‘catch and release’ dating experience. The guy or girl is obsessed with the notion of the chase-whether that be virtual or real- but as soon as their ‘prey’ has taken the bait and has been ‘caught’, the hunter ‘releases’ the prey because they have become ‘bored’. This might happen during a relationship where you are making them wait for sex because you want to make sure they really are that into you and once the deed is done, the interest begins to wane because they have ‘entered the gate’ so to speak. It might also happen outside of a relationship where you like someone and they like you back but you are making them ‘work for it’. Eventually they have earned your trust but they have become bored and go back to ‘catching other prey’.
10. Cheese Toastie
Now here is one that you might not have come across before the infamous ‘cheese toastie’, otherwise known as code word for ‘secret sex’. Essentially the person you might be seeing or even a person who turns up at your door- the mailman?- could be invited in for a ‘cheese toastie’. The toastie refers to the actual sex i.e. being sandwiched together whereas the ‘cheese is the naughty bit of the toastie because that person is not meant to be having sex with you. Whether it be because that person already has a partner, your friends or parents would disapprove or they like someone else, a cheese toastie is never a good idea. My friend said she once asked a guy into her dorms for an ‘actual cheese toastie (not the sex kind you naughty lot) and he said no thanks I have a girlfriend because he thought she was inviting him in for sex.
There you have it ladies and gentlemen, question is what dating buzzword will we adopt next?
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I really admire people that go into online dating and meet a total stranger. I know that sometimes it is hard to meet new people or even score a date with someone interesting but I am still a bit untrusting with complete strangers 😉
Oh these were all new to me! I haven’t heard of a single phrase/word from this list that you’ve created. I do remember the bread crumbs used in the story of Henzel and Gratel. You’ve just reminded me of my childhood memories.
i have never heard of cheese toastie! how funny!
I LOVE this post ! so so honest … also loving the terms… breadcrumbing… haha perhaps its how youre telling the story ?! but seriously a good read ! THANK YOU !!
Very interesting post, I think I am showing my age here because all these terms are totally alien to me, but its good to be educated in new terminology and at least I can understand what the youngsters mean now when they use these terms.
I loved reading this post, I feel like my eyes have been opened. I had no idea what most of these terms meant! xo
I didn’t know about these new dating techniques! Had fun reading this post! I feel that dating is similar to gambling! You never know what will you get! But keep playing until you meet your Mr/Miss Right!
oh my .. haha I am having a great laugh with all the terms you used to describe this kind of people… that Zombie-ing reminds me of my ex.. she’s like coming back from the dead suddenly trying to come back to me hahaha
Anyway, i think this is a great reminder to us that we should learn to analyze the person’s behavior and how they deal with relationship before you decide to take your relationship to a higher level
i actually haven’t come across any of these terms before but maybe thats because i was married and out of the dating scene quite a while back but i really thank you for doing this post, very informative.
I didn’t really know any of these terms, dating sure has changed since I last dated haha
Wow! Well this post certainly taught me a few things! The world of dating just seems far too complex for me these days!
All this reminds me is how lucky I am not to be dating any more!! Really is not smooth sailing out there and these dating terms prove just that! Thanks for sharing
Gosh the dating game in 2017 is very scary. I had no idea or never heard of any of these terns before Ana and I’m beginning to feel like the world of social media (asides from dating sites) creates all sorts of fidelity issues. Of course the fuck boys always existed and always will but some problems probably wouldn’t be so bad if it wasn’t so easy to send out messages etc with very little consequences for the perpetrator.
As someone who is currently dating, I can relate to every one of these terms! x
Reading your post has made me realise how out of touch I am! I have been married for 12 years. Don’t think I’d survive the dating game.
I guess if there is a ISO certification for online dating, I might passed it with flying colors 🙂
yeah I find it convenient, and learned how to detect fraud easily.
It has all changed since my day, where it was so much easier and no social media, I have seen through friends and my boys just how difficult dating is these days.
Oh my word I am so out of touch I didn’t know any of these!!
Oh man, I am so glad I am not on the dating scene anymore. It sounds like it’s harder than ever. Thanks for the vocab lesson, too – I didn;t know any of these.
Wow! I’m only 26, single AND dating and I’ve never heard of most of those – I guess it’s time to take my dating game to the next level! Ha!
These terms are all new to me, well, except fboys and fgirls as I do read your blog religiously. It is so tough to be dating nowadays! I thought dating 10 years ago was hard, this is torturous. But, i do believe that you will find the person you are meant to find whenever you are meant to find them. x
I’ve done the online dating thing, it’s how I met my current bf, thankfully, I’ve hit the jackpot, but whilst I’ve not come across any of these terms, I sure recognise the behaviours (and that’s just from some of the messages). Thankfully, I only went on the one date and we’re still together. #MMBC
This is hilarious! I have never heard of these terms before. Times really have changed now though. I met my fiancé online via Facebook 6 years ago back when tinder didn’t exist so i miss out on how vile the online dating world can be. But I see if all the time with friends. It is just too easy for people to use each other now and move on to the next one.
I have never tried online dating; always found the concept a little too overwhelming – definitely interesting though! And these terms are making this whole concept sound interesting too.
Oh my! I’ve been out of the dating loop of ages, happily. These are hilarious!
Interesting post. Didn’t know there were so many terms!
Well I have learnt a few new terms and I frankly have no clue what I would do in today’s dating scene. Teher seem to be so many young people out to have maximum fun and anyone else’s expense and no responsibility for the hearts of the people they hurt along the way.
Cushioning, Hyping , Layby…OMG what else…I cant keep up! I hope you do find the one Ana. Coz I cant imagine living like this! I am eitehr getting old and sage or simply out of the loop….Whats the word coming to!!!!
I have never heard any of these terms lol. I’ve been with my husband for 6 years now so I have been out of the dating world for quite a while. I am so glad I am out because I remember hating dating .
I am SHOCKED by these terms! I only knew fuckboy/fuckgirl so all the others were a complete discovery. I can’t even believe they’re real ahah
Thank you for sharing and teaching me a few new things (I love your outfit by the way, the pics are so pretty!)
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I have heard of some of these terms before. I think it’s funny how people come up with the names for these meanings.
Hahah! Funnily, I have never heard any of these, may be I am a bit too old for these things. But its funny in a wat for teenagers etc to such such terms.
This is a great list. Its only one term I would to the list “situationship”.
OMG – i needed this! haha for real dating after 30 is so much harder! and now I have to add to the list of things some new lingo. I suddently feel old LOL that said THANK YOU for this detailed list! i’ll be cool and hip again <3
This was so enjoyable to read Ana – I love it when Jasmine has her say. She’s so sassy! S sounds horrible, so glad there was no happy ending for him!
Lots of love,
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Oh my word literally no idea about any of these terms having been out of the dating scene for so long…it’s a whole other world!
Being as I have not heard or come across most of these terms (or know what they mean!) makes it a good job I’m no longer on the dating scene I think!
Holy heck – these terms are really foreign to me so I’m thrilled I’m not in the dating scene! I mean, its a challenge as it is just to pick out an outfit, but to also know all the lingo would put me over the edge! haha…
haha these are hilarious! I have never actually heard of any of these.
Wow. So glad I’m out of the game! 😂
I have never heard of any of these, but they’re pretty amusing. Thank God I am not currently dating lol
I have not heard of any of these terms before. I will have to ask my young adult daughter if these are terms that are used here in America or if it’s different. I haven’t dated in a very very long time so I have no idea these type of things existed .
I’ve only recently learnt of the term breadcrumbing… So much new slang… It makes me feel old…
Wow I’ve never heard of any of these. I’ve been out of the dating game a while, but I am newly single so maybe it’s as well to be aware of these types so that I can avoid them.
Christ I could never go dating now! It was bad enough 11 years ago let alone cracking breadcrumbing out! Isn’t it mad how things evolve and change, I think I wouldn’t be confident enough to go out there now x
I totally agree with you regarding the online dating scene, it’s become far more acceptable and less frowned upon now, minus the few catfishes out there, it can be a great way to find some one, a good friend of mine is proof of that! P.S. Cheese toastie is new to me! Made me smile, I love cheese toasties! haha
Wow. These are new terms. I have to take note of these terms, not for myself but for my daughter. I need to let her know that there are such terms that may have been used to refer to her, and that she should stay away from those people.
I am sat here thinking where do people come up with all of these terms? Maybe I have been using the wrong {or is it right} dating sites that I have not come across any of these, well except fuck boys
Dating is so hard especially now as the whole game has changed over the past years with it becoming such a virtual world. I knew some of these phases but had never heard of at least 5 so I really learnt something from this post. I am sure you will find someone who is kind and respectful soon, I believe they are out there
Laura x
I am going to bookmark this and read it again next time my husband annoys me! I do not want to go through any of that!
And I thought ghosting was bad! I never even thought there were terms for these different types of annoyances we call dating. I am glad I’m over the dating scene!
I have to admit I haven’t heard of any of these terms, mind you it has been a long time since I dated.
Jeeze! My mummy feels really old and has never heard of any of these terms, however she gets what they are about and has been victim to bread crumbing and cushioning before. Horrible mind tricks and power games. It must be worse now with the introduction of social media which wasn’t around when my mummy was dating.
What odd terms. I am so glad I’m not in the dating world. I could not keep up with any of these. I’d refuse to use them because I’d feel silly. You look wonderful–love the shade of this top.
I didn’t know half of these terms before. Glad I am learning something tonight. I left the dating world as I am in a stable relationship but if I ever come back to it, i’ll remember this post. thanks for sharing. xx corinne
Oh goodness, this has made me very glad that my dating days are well and truly over!
This post is so helpful, I will showing my single friends this guide.
OMG i am so out of touch with the terms being used. I have to admit reading this I do worry for my daughters the world is a scary place and that’s before you even add dating into the equation. I’m relived this isn’t a concern for me but do worry for my friends who are trying to date but struggling.
I have two daughters of dating age and while I have heard the fuckboy term, I was unfamiliar with the others. One day I might get back into the dating game, things sure have changed.
I had never heard of most of these! You learn something new every day lol.
I laughed so hard reading this LMAO girl you are on Fire with these terms hahah. The sad irony of this is the truth doe 🙁 been through the “cushoning” faze not cool !
I met my husband through online dating! It worked really well for us. Glad to be out of the dating scene!
I have never heard of any of this before and so glad I don’t need to!
Gosh this is so sad to me. The dating game has gotten out of control. I think it is a bigger reflection on our selfish culture where it is all about me.
This has been a very entertaining post for me! I’ve been in a relationship for about 6 years so all of this is new to me! I still can’t get over how casual people can be on tinder. I love that people are meeting online but some of my friends are meeting such a**holes on there. But I guess that’s what you call a f*ckboy lol. Loved this post!
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I’ve never heard of most of these. Thankfully I haven’t been in the dating world for quite some time but I’m sure it’s difficult!
I haven’t heard these terms before but they are perfect. I have been out of the dating game for many many years. Which is probably a good thing considering I am much meaner than I was when I got married at 24.I am pretty sure if I were dating at this point I would be single forever as I wouldn’t put up with anything!
Gosh I have heard of hardly any of these. There’s so much to catch up on! xxx
haha i love this post and your outfit!
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Zombie-ing has been happening to me a lot lately! One guy I haven’t talked to in over a year messaged me and asked me to blog about his new clothing line! WHAT A JOKE!
Dating now days can be scary as hell. I was terrified to date again after I lost my late husband. I was blessed to find a great man.
I am not into dating really, good thing its a not a necessity for me. This is a nice post which lets you know these kinds. Technology also plays a role in some of the dating. Just be careful.
I’m only familiar with one of these. The dating world sounds crazy these days!
I am so happy I do not have to date. I am in love with those boots. The color is perfect for summer.
A cheese toasty and layby’s are the weirdest sounding ones to me, I feel like the only one I knew on this list was fuckboy/fuckgirl. I am out of the scene these days.
These terms make me feel that I’m not aware of what’s hot and what’s not today! Anyway, these are so scary especially for those who are still in the stage of dating..
Oh my goodness Ana, I haven’t heard of any of these buzzword before. What a crazy world this online dating thing is. I suppose though, that people have been doing these sorts of things long before online dating came around, although I have to wonder if the medium of social media only magnifies it?
So eye opening, so many things make so much more sense! This just makes me glad I’m not part of the dating scene in this day and age, I can barely keep up!
Love your post! Your post taught me alot. Will definitely send this post to my girlfriends.
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Wow, these are adding to my vocab. Frankly , have never used these terms and not heard of a lot of them earlier.But it’s good to know their usage in dating..!
hahaha I never heard about these terms before but I’m sure they exist and I would say there could be more…at the end, these are people I don’t want in my life…really nice outfit! x
Cheese toastie is hilarious as a euphemism, I never would have guessed!! 😂
These are some interesting points, it certainly is hard to find someone in this day in age of social media. Love your article and the similar one describing “fuckboys!
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I have not come across most of these terms and I am very glad I haven’t. Ghosting was generally what happened to me, we’d chat loads, have an alright date then he’d disappear x
Man I must be ancient I didn’t know any of these. And fuckboys? OMG I am sure glad I am not single!
Love this! Brutally honest post haha x x
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What an honest and interesting read. I am happy to be out of the dating world. Hated it.
I never know about most of these and glad I came over this post. I have now new learnings about this terms. Internet and many applications being developed i think is the main reason for this.
I have certainly heard of some of these dating terms. And I have had some of these things happen to me. I think there are so many different people online out to cheat on the people that they are with. Even if it’s not working out with your partner, settle that first before you engage with someone else. But I sympathize with what they feel as I have been the person in an abusive marriage. So I get it, and I get not wanting to feel or be alone. Just take care of your end and get out and then worry about finding someone.
Wow I am well out of the loop never knew that these terms even existed – Fab article btw 🙂 x
I have to say these dating terms are new to me. Some of them are pretty funny. Dating would be so much easier if we all were just honest and open.
Oh wow, I am so relieved that I am not in the dating scene anymore. I have always been the last person to catch on to knew phrases, these would have just had me confused.
Didn’t know that there were so many different new dating terms! I’m married so it’s just new info for me. Enjoyable read 🙂
I definitely have never heard of many of these terms! So interesting that people take the time to make up names for them! I sure am glad I don’t have to worry about any of this!
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Wow. You have officially blown away my mind. I never knew of these terms 😛 but maybe because I really loved only one girl all my life.
Dang! I only know a couple of these terms. I have definitely lost track of everything that has to do with dating. I think this is a good guideline for those who are just about to enter the dating world. There will be so much less wasted time once they know these.
Why does everyone have to make Dating so difficult lol with all these terms I don’t think I could cope! although I have heard of the fuckboy and unfortunately met one or two in my time!
Oh my goodness! I have never heard of any of these, I can’t quite believe it! You look gorgeous by the way 🙂 Kaz x
WOAH! I have barely heard of ANY of these terms…dating nowadays is a minefield!
Thanks for sharing!
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Oh my, I’ve never heard of any of these terms…. fuckboy yes, but not in the way you described lol…. I couldn’t bare being single now, infact if i was ..I would be single for a very long time ..men in skinny jeans is the biggest turn off for me !!! Lol.
I was lucky enough to find my soulmate through internet dating but I know of so many who are still looking 🙁
I think it my husband and i parted company I would just have to hibernate forever … i thought dating was scary before … now i am terrified lol
this is a massive 10 for one to keep up to, well in dating there is a whole lot of drama, filled up there, some come good and others come very bad, but at the end of the day the most important thging is finding your own better half and growing older together.
the fboy/fgirl thingy got me laughing though.. alot of them out there.
In the end, fuckboys and fuckgirls will be the saddest people in the world. There will be always joy in being true and kind and genuinely gracious. Anyway, side-commenting: I love your off shoulder top. I love the fabric and the color and it’s design.
In the end, fuckboys and fuckgirls will be the saddest people in the world. There will be always joy in being true and kind and genuinely gracious. Anyway, side-commenting: I love your off shoulder top. I love the fabric and the color and it’s design.
I am so happy and thankful that I am not dating in this day in age. It would be so hard. This would definitely be helpful for those who are single.
I have to be honest, I am so glad that I am out of the dating scene. Things have definitely changed since I was dating my husband eighteen years ago.
I’ve heard a few of these terms, but not others. It makes me glad to be off the market, I feel like I would have no tolerance for this nonsense.
Wow that was an honest post. Haven’t dated ever since I got married but I am now I am scared for people who are dating.
I have to say that I am so glad that I am no longer a part of the dating scene. Even if I were to become single again, I don’t think that I would ever re-enter the dating world. There is just too much uncertainty in the dating world.
Wow, dating is so complicated. At least I’ll understand what my eldest is talking about now if he uses these terms!!
The dating game seems much more complicated these days and I have never heard of these terms although the scenarios were around when I was dating too
A lot of interesting points, so true and honest post! Love that post Ana. Honesty in writing is everything! Have a wonderful day!
This just shows how long it has been since I dated. I had never heard of most of these!
I have to be honest and say that I am happy to be out of the dating game, everything seems so complicated now with social media being such a big part of life. I haven’t heard of any of these terms! I think dating sites would probably be a good way to meet people though, since you fill out a profile etc. – as long as it is a reputable one and people are being truthful. Good luck!
This is great! What a brilliant ideas! I will note all of these list. Its kinda helpful!
Haha, I’d never heard of several of these terms, but I recognise the behavior! I’m going to try to come up with a buzzword of my own and get back to you!
I have been hearing these terms from other friends for some time now. It’s funny to see them written out, hahah !:)
Great post explaining them all.
I had to chuckle my way through these terms – how ridiculous dating slang has become – I am definitely getting old!!! Glad I’m married and don’t have to worry about all these things 😀
I love how the tips come from your “alter-ego” lol. I need to seriously step my online dating lingo up though because I only knew about 2 of the terms from the list above. Sadly, I can admit to being in the layby situation once upon a time.
I have quite an extensive dating history, but have never heard of mostly any of these terms haha. Learnt something new today!
Crikey – I’ve certainly learnt a lot today – I am so out of this kind of terminology but I know my own kids will start using a lot of this soon as they enter the teenage years! So thanks for giving me the heads up on this!
Dating is getting harder in this era. If you weren’t hitch before than you will a less chance of getting hitch.
Dating is getting harder in this era. If you weren’t hitch before then you will have a lesser chance of getting hitch.
Not gonna lie breadcrumbing and cheese toasty got me!!! Hahahha I love this dating vocab!
Ok I’ve said this a few times this week. I. Feel. So. Old. HA! I haven’t heard of any of these terms. How crazy is that!
This is an interesting topic! Great outfit btw! Love the embroidered detail! I have been in a committed relationship for 10 years now and we started dating during the myspace era. lol. BUT! now with all these other social media apps I feel that dating would be so hard and people will see that they have “other” options and not really want to commit. I haven’t had the opportunity to deal with these jerky guys. But this post would for sure be helpful for me if I ever enter the dating scene again. eek!
I’ve heard of half of these but the others are new to me. People in the dating world can be just awful can’t they! Whilst I would love to find a boyfriend the whole dating scene is just too stressful to deal with for me.
Wow I had no idea about any of this! I got married a while ago now and I must say I don’t miss the dating scene!
I feel so old right now! I am so glad that I dont have to deal with fuckboys or tuners. Lol thanks for making me laugh with Hanzel and Gretel. Hilarious!
Being married for almost 12 years most of these terms are new to me. It must be so different, and hard!, to date with so much on social.
Bloody hell!!!! I have been married for 24 years and I am so glad I have. I literally couldn’t cope with all these phrases and drama, but I loved reading about them all.
In fact I am going to share them with my 20 year old twin daughters so they know all about these pitfalls (if they don’t already) xxx
Ahhhh dating these days sounds so scary! Heck, I’ll say in the last 10 years it’s all gone downhill. I’m glad I found my hubby! The stories my single friends tell me about dating these days omg!!! Ridiculous
Glad that I’m done into dating! But heck, I had experience in almost most of these except the cheese toastie (gladly). I only call them by one name do****bags😂. It’s nice to learn new terms though. Now I can give advise to my dating girl friends who always confide to me about their dating problems.
I’ve never heard of a single one of these but I am so glad I’m not dating now. I’m sorry you are out there with all of this.
Times definitely have changed. This is my first time hearing about these terms and it’s been a while since I was last in the dating scene. The kids have it rough, that’s for sure.
This was interesting to read, especially from someone who hasn’t dated in nearly 20 years! I think it is amusing that most of these people were around when I was, but we just didn’t have a name for them! By the way, absolutely LOVE that outfit, gorgeous!
Gosh this is why I’m more than happy to be single. Dating is just too damn complicating, plus i have no patience for fuckboys or someone who does the above terms.
Oh my word the dating scene has become so complicated hey! I tried online dating once and I think some of these terms best describe what is found on the online dating sites lol. Cushioning…
I’ve never heard of these terms, and they sound pretty rough! Thankfully my dating experiences haven’t been too bad.
Oh my I didn’t know I am missing a lot of dating terms nowadays haha. This is really informative. I am really glad that my dating stage is over.
I’m horrified to realise i didn’t know some of these terms! what the hell! i refuse to be out of touch I’m not that old :p
the only term ive come across is fuck boys/girls. the rest just went over my heard. interesting to read about it though lol
Haha! These are funny! I’m actually a dating blogger in the US and haven’t heard of some of these terms! I touch on several of the others in some of my posts. I’d love to get your take on some of my topics! 😉
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Yes! I love your blog, maybe we could do a collaboration, that would be a lot of fun. Talking about dating is so much fun, it is such a crazy world out there 🙂
21st century dating can be so harsh. I’ve been ghosted a few times and it’s a horrid feeling.
Very informative. I probably only knew two of these! Quite a funny read too!
Wow I’ve NEVER heard of these. It makes me feel kinda old!
I knew a few of these…Thanks for keeping my up to date with the rest. I actually just learned the term, breadcrumbing a couple of weeks ago from an elders react video on YouTube. 🙈🙈🙈
I’ve been married for 20 years so I love reading things like this. I need to keep up to date with what people are saying lol. I didn’t know half of these thanks.
I had no idea what any of these terms meant, the dating scene seems rather brutal these days x
WOW! All I can say is thank god I am married because I wouldn’t have a clue about any of these things!!! I have never heard some of these terms in my whole life!! I wont ever look at a cheese toastie the same way!
Hilarious. What a nightmare dating has gotten to be these days lol so glad I don’t have to deal with it anymore.
I think once I’ve gotten away from my current relationship I’m going to just stay single forever. The last time I actually started dating someone (11 years ago) there weren’t all these terms flying around! It’s clearly very scary out there now lol
Louise x
This is really interesting! I can honestly say I didn’t know 9 of these terms! You can tell I am not dating anymore!
Human relationships are incredibly complicated and fraught with difficulty. Especially in the early stages of getting to know someone, there’s a million different ways things can go wrong.
damn there’s a lot of terms to dating that I knew most of but not all! I’m newish to the dating world and I know a guy who tried the breadcrumb method on me (it didn’t work!) matter of fact I told him I knew exactly what he was doing, spelled it out for him and told him games don’t work on me… His response was that games work on all women (I reassured him, ‘NOT ME’)
I really don’t get the point of all these games. Playing with peoples emotions is just wrong to me!
Honestly, I haven’t heard this dating terms it sounds new to me lol, I will share this to my friend I bet she like this too
I say this all the time, but dating is such a minefield these days, it was so much easier when you used to meet someone in a pub or club!
You know its funny you say we should stay away from fvck boys lol Im dating a retired one i know it sounds stupid but its been 2 years and i haven’t receive any bad vybes from him i met couple of his exes who i didnt know was n boy oh boy he got alot of ex they tell me alot of stuff to look out for and i haven’t seen he act that way once he even loves holding my hand in public lol normally its us girls like doing that
This is why I love you, my soul sister! I literally crackered up all the way through, not just becuase shamedly my experiences in life, but becuase of these names for these effed up people! xx
Lmao, this post is hilarious. I love the fact that you so much opened about what happened to you, and some of them sucks; but the way you described was interesting. I didn’t know people used these terms throughout dating relationships! haha. http://www.clairebearblogs.com/
I dont’ know these terms, its crazy how mmuch has changed since my dating days! Though I have heard quite a few horror stories from my single friends of their dating lives! I definitely don’t want to be single right now!
Oh goodness, all this new dating lingo has made me glad I’m not in the game anymore! Who knew there could be so much to it?!
I’ve never heard of so many of these, I feel so out of the loop. I’m sad to say I’ve been on both sides of some of these including the cheese toastie I’m afraid
wow this is new ive never heard of these terms before
I was curious of this year’s. Haha! I left the dating scene last 2014 when I got married, and really, I feel more like an auntie nowadays. I honestly have not heard of the “terms” but realized I’ve been through some before when I got into the explanation part, but just didn’t have a term for it back then.
Oh wow! I must be so out of touch, I only know a couple of those terms, but it was so easier when I was dating (hark at me! I sound going on 60 rather than 37) Hehe!
I love your outfit, those jeans are gorgeous x
Wow… there is so much I’ve missed from the dating world, since I found my husband about 7 years ago. I’m so happy I never had to experience all this madness of London TBH. I wonder why is it becoming so difficult to commit yourself and experience love, but people prefer complicating things so much.
Cheese Toastie? I’ve never heard of this ever but honestly..who wants secret sex unless it’s some freaky ish LOL!
I’m loving the list though. It’s keeping me honest, making sure to dot my i’s and cross my t’s in this dating world.
I must say that after 30 years of marriage I have no idea what these terms meant. The dating terms have seemed to all change but I did get a kick out of reading them and after thinking about them many of them make good sense
Oh my God, this is fabulous. Cheese Toastie! And breadcrumbing. I suffered through that more times than I care to count. This post is absolutely brilliant and I laughed out loud at several. And laughter is the best medicine!
Oh my gosh, now I feel properly old, haha. Never heard any of those! Luckily I’m not looking for a date, otherwise I’d be in trouble! Xx
Your outfits and looks look really perfect for date. Your post is very informative who are into dating.
“Cheese toastie.” 😭
Oh my god! Can’t believe they are all new to me! Reading this makes me feel young again lmao thanks!!