How I Created A Mental Health Toolkit To Beat The January Blues
I used to be the girl who would ignore her feelings, who would shrug her shoulders when someone asked me ‘why I was crying’ or lock myself away for days in my room, without talking to a single soul, because I didn’t know how to process my emotions and the anger I would feel at being ‘sad’ scared even me. I remembered the jeering faces looming over me,with malice in their eyes, the bullies, the abusers,the demons that lurked in the shadows. There are times when I have to force myself to smile, hoping that the low lighting conceals the tears that are forming in my eyes. Or that noone will notice if I lock myself away in the toilet for half an hour, because I am sobbing and have no idea why.
Because this is the reality of living with social anxiety disorder, Generalized Anxiety Disorder,Depression and PTSD… the tears will fall, the rage will engulf you in its scorching flames and the sadness will make you wallow in the deep blue ocean, submerged underwater. But (and its a big but),being diagnosed gave me answers that I had been searching for my whole life and one of the most key lessons that I learned from being more ‘aware of my mental health issues’ is A. it’s ok to cry.Don’t be ashamed. Bottling up your feelings will make you feel worse. B. Just because you have a diagnosis doesn’t make you ‘abnormal’. Be proud of who you are and don’t seek to be someone else.Be You. and C. create a happy list or a gratitude journal that you fill in when you need some ‘happy-inspiration’. Which is where my mental health toolkit for beating the January Blues comes in…
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Like many people who have depression and anxiety, many of my low points are characterized by the ‘weather’ or season,with winter months making me more prone to being upset, frustrated or angry.Of course, there are other factors involved like PTSD from childhood abuse and bullying throughout my teens, but unlike my 16 year old self,if I am upset, I don’t pretend that I am ok if I am not. Granted I am not going to tell a random stranger why I am crying, but I know that I can talk to loved ones if I need to, rather than keeping problems to myself. Which is where my new mental health toolkit comes in; I have had a touch of the January blues this month and while I have been working on having a more positive mindset,there are times where in the middle of having a shower my mind goes into overdrive and I have a panic attack, or at night, my heart races because I am worried about f**king something up. It was one night at 4 AM where it came to me, building my own personalized mental health toolkit would be another way of combating the January Blues, and alongside the 10 things that make me happy, would be a great outlet for me to laugh, cry and let all my emotions out, without needing to ‘filter my feelings’. After all I know that it is ‘ok to not feel ok’, it is ok to need to cry and it is ok to cancel plans if you need time out to focus on your mental health.
Treating Yourself To Some ‘Me Time’
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Learning to be comfortable in my own ‘company’ has been something I had struggled with since I was a young girl and yet at the same time social occasions would leave me with a pit of dread in my stomach,particularly if it was events or parties. It is a conundrum that I find difficult to deal with at times but learning that it is ‘ok to be alone’ or cancel events or plans because you are not feeling ok, shouldn’t be something you should feel guilty about. I had a friend who used to ask me why I would go to things that would make me feel deeply unhappy and my answer would usually revolve not wanting to ‘let people down’ or to an extent trying to ‘push myself outside of my comfort zone’, to which she would reply ‘but it makes you unhappy’. And she is right, as much as I want to push my boundaries and go to environments that challenge me i.e. parties where I like to dance, but am often sick with anxiety because I find it hard to meet new people in that kind of environment and being left out is something that makes me very upset- at the same time I don’t want to spend my evening doing something that will make me anxious or upset.
So yes,I am a little bit of a social hermit and I am ok with that. I am never going to be the most popular girl nor am I someone who is entirely comfortable with attention. At the same time,I am friendly and do go up to people at events, especially if I see someone that is on their own, because I know what it feels like to not be part of a ‘clique’ at certain occasions and wouldn’t want them to feel as uncomfortable as I do.But I digress; treating yourself to some me-time is one of the biggest assets of my mental health toolkit and here is why…
- Learning to be comfortable in your own company feeds your soul.It teaches you to appreciate yourself more as a person and has a calming effect on your mental health.
- When you indulge in self-care it sends positive images of safety and security into your mind, a good image to have in an age that is conditioned by anxiety.
- When we take care of ourselves we feel ‘worthy’ and increasing our self worth and self-esteem has a positive impact on our mental health
Ideas On How To Make Your Me Time ‘A Happy and Positive Experience
Have a snuggly PJ and Netflix session
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While most people might spend their Saturday nights going to parties and drinking, I would much rather snuggle under a cozy blanket, watching Netflix in my Pajamas and that is ok. Don’t be afraid to turn down a party invite if it makes you feel anxious, especially if your only reason for accepting is because ‘you don’t want to let someone down’. No. Stop it, it will only end up making you feel worse and besides I much prefer eating out at restaurants than a ‘party’ any day. So welcome to Faded Spring’s cuddly PJ and Netflix session, an entire evening dedicated to what you-and only you- wants to do. So whether you find that comedies like ‘Crazy Ex Girlfriend’ or Rick and Morty turn that frown upside down or would much rather dig into thrillers like ‘Stranger Things’ pop on an episode and two and enjoy being temporarily transported into a different world. While I don’t recommend ‘avoiding’ any emotions you may be feeling,taking time out of our day to relax, can help us unwind and has a calming effect on our state of mind.
Happy Shows That I Recommend
1.The Inbetweeners
2. Crazy Ex Girlfriend (although Season 3 is quite dark. Stick to Season 2 if you want ‘laughs’)
3. American Dad
4.Miranda
5. Fresh Meat
6. Rick and Morty
Happy Films That I Recommend
- White Chicks
- Shrek
- Bad Education The Movie
- Inbetweeners The Movie
- Anything with Adam Sandler In It
Create A Solo Date Night
Yes you heard that right… a solo date night. Whether you are a singleton or have a partner, what better way to treat yourself to some me time than with a ‘solo date night’. From treating yourself to a home cooked meal or your favourite takeaway and taking the time to ‘truly enjoy’ your meal to indulging in a bubble bath, while reading a good book, who says that date nights have to involve other people?
Ideas For The Perfect Solo Date Night
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- Order Your Favourite Takeaway and snuggle up in bed, in your onesie, dressing gown or comfiest underwear (a bra like this is perfect for those moments!).” . For example I would order a margarita pizza, cheesy garlic bread and chips,while having a good ol’ Netflix binge because that is my idea of a perfect night in.
- Treat yourself to flowers to brighten up your home, buy yourself delicious chocolates and put the music on to put you in the feel good mood. For me I like to dance to rap, hip hop and house music, but for others the soft croon of ‘Micheal Buble’ might feel more ‘soothing’ than a guy rapping about all the sex he has been having.
- And speaking of sex… granted you can’t suck yourself off unless you do a ‘Marilyn Manson’ and remove your ribs. but how about some good ol’ fashioned alone time.And by that I mean foreplay. Whether you want to treat yourself to some alone time with sex toys or prefer a bubble bath with ‘saucy treats’ then a subscription box service like Love Drop is guaranteed to turn your solo date night, into a pleasurable moment to remember.
Have a bubble bath & book session to make you feel good…
When I am feeling anxious, sometimes nothing calms me down more than taking time away from technology and relaxing in a warm and welcoming bubble bath, complete with treats like macaroons, a good ‘guilty pleasure book’, bath bombs from Miss Patiserrie or Lush, while lathering my hair and body with cruelty free products for the body and hair. Because nothing makes me feel happier than products that make me feel good, without hurting the precious animals that I so adore. From a relaxing bath oil scented with lavender that helps ease the tension in your back to sulfate free shampoo that is kinder to your hair and the animals you love, find out what cruelty free goodies you should be adding to have the perfect bubble bath and book session.
- Olverum Bath Oil
This vegan friendly,chemical free bath oil is what I like to call ‘magic in a bottle’. After a stressful day, which ended in tears, I hopped into the magic land that I like to call my ‘bubble bath fantasy’ and sank into a steaming hot bath, with a drop of bath oil scented with lime, geranium and lavender. While Olverum might not be a household name just yet, thanks to a cult following,the bath oil has helped transform many peoples baths into a relaxing haven, away from the stresses of modern day life. So next time you feel like life is getting you down, pop a bath oil into your mental health toolkit and fight back against the January Blues.
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2. Drop A Bath Bomb And Unleash Your Inner Child With Lush
Nothing brightens up a gloomy day, more than a bath bomb that is bursting with colour. And who better than cruelty free animal loving brands like Miss P and Lush to bring the happiness factor into your life. Whether you want happy sprinkles like confetti and glitter or love watching rainbow bath bombs explode in your bath, sometimes it is the ‘little things’ that can make our bad days turn into something that is ultimately more positive.
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3. Pamper Your Skin With Urban Veda
One of five cruelty free brands that I recommended my readers should try in 2018, Urban Veda is an incredible eco-friendly, cruelty free brand who cares as much about protecting the environment as it does for animals. With a range of skincare products like body polishes, day creams and body scrubs, turn your bubble bath into a cruelty free pamper session that will make you feel as good in the inside as you will look outside. What I love about Urban Veda is not only do their range of products cater to all skin types but they also have a fun quiz that determines your ‘dosha’, which enables you to pick cruelty free products that are ‘Catered To You’. For example as I have oily, congested skin, my dosha is ‘kapha’ as you can see by the range of products above. And believe me when I say this, never has my skin felt so smooth and ‘spot free’. As someone who has high levels of ‘anxiety’ it tends to manifest through my skin, where I get flaming rashes,acne and spots, especially when I am at my most stressed out but my skin has become much better in recent months, since using Urba Veda. And the fact that they are cruelty free obviously makes my heart sing, because the more animals I can protect with my choice of products, the happier I will feel.
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4. Be Kind To Your Hair With Sulfate Free Hair Products
When TOTM, my favourite intimate health brand (and badass period powerful pioneers) recommended Tints Of Nature to me, I was immediately hooked. Cruelty free, sulfate free and priced at a budget price point, I had been looking for a ‘hair brand’ who could tame my wild mane, without pouring a whole load of chemicals in my hair and Tints Of Nature was what I like to call my ‘hair champion’. Committed to being vegan and kinder to our scalp, they offer a range of products including dry shampoo, sulfate free shampoo and structure treatments that are guaranteed to breathe life into your hair.
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5. And Don’t Forget About The Men. Keep Animals And Your Skin Happy With 31ST State
All too often men forget that they are in as much need of ‘self-care’ and me time, because of societies ridiculous conception that to take take care of yourself is to be ‘feminine’. No matter what gender you are, you deserve to feel special, whether that be through face masks, manicures or getting a wax. Which is where 31st State comes in , a vegan and cruelty free skincare brand that is catered for teens and young adults, as men deserve to have skincare that makes them look and feel good as well. With items ranging from 2 in 1 hair and body washes to overnight clearing pads, 31’st States ethos is that ‘simplicity and quality’ over quantity matters every time, inspired by the ‘effortless aesthetic’ of a Californian lifestyle. But where do all our furry friends fit into this brand I hear you ask? Well its simple, alongside the concept of creating skincare where animals are not used for testing, the items do not contain animal derivatives and all of their ingredients are naturally sourced, with no space for chemicals like parabens, meaning happier skin, happier animals and a delivery of feel good happiness all year round.
Don’t Be Afraid To Take Time Out To Masturbate
Yes I said it, the elephant in the room. So many of us are afraid to be talk about sex because we view it as something that is private, or something that ‘shouldn’t be spoken about’. Now I am not saying that you need to talk about your sex life, but at the same time don’t be afraid to admit that you masturbate. There is this stigma perpetuated by the media that women who’watch porn’ or masturbate defy convention or are abhorrent when in reality both men and women masturbate get over it. And yes even those who have partners watch porn or wank. Besides taking the time out of our day to have fun with sex toys like the Lelo Drop, a vibrator that stimulates the clitoris, or using something as simple as a candle or lube to ‘turn us on’, can be an incredible way of beating the January Blues.
After all sex and foreplay are great mood boosters,providing important psychological and emotional benefits like a boost in self-esteem and correlate with an increased satisfaction in mental health.So regardless of whether you have a partner or not, using toys or more traditional ways of ‘getting yourself’ off can be a great way of relieving stress, which is where Love Drop come in, a subscription box dedicated to couples and singletons, who want to focus on making their mental health a priority, by using sex or foreplay as an outlet. After all,while I might find writing to a positive outlet that helps me deal with ‘negative emotions’, I also find that spending some time each day getting to know ‘my body’does help me feel more confident and powerful in the bedroom.
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Eat The Foods That Make You Happy
Whether you are a mac and cheese fanatic,or dream about curries that waft deliciously throughout your fantasies, eating good, nutritious foods like fruit and vegetables are not only great aphrodisiacs but also can boost your state of mind. Its like the difference between eating a delicious soup and a tasty pizza; granted the pizza gives you an ‘instantaneous boost’ but the soup on the other hand not only helps you feel fuller for longer but also has more nutritional value, meaning that it is packed full of nutrients that will stimulate your mind and your body. That being said, even if the foods that make you ‘temporarily happy’ like a pizza is on your wishlist, then that is ok, just make sure you also put food into your diet that will help you feel happier too.
‘Treat Food’ That Makes Me Happy
- Mac ‘N’ Cheese
- Cheese
- Pizza
- Chickpea Curry
- Smoothies
New ‘Snacks’ That I Have Tried & Loved
Crazy Jacks
As someone who is prone to tucking into unhealthy snacks like chocolate that only gives me a ‘temporary high’,I have been looking for snacks to have both on the go and when I am working that is actually good for me. Which is where Crazy Jacks comes in, an organic food brand that is dedicated to creating mood boosting snacks like soft apricots and dried mangos, among savory snacks like whole blanched hazelnuts and pumpkin seeds, among other delicious snacks that are all vegetarian friendly. Out of all the snacks I have tried from Crazy Jacks so far, the nutritional heavyweight aka the humble apricot is definitely my favourite. With a treasure chest of anti-oxidants like non-heme iron which helps aid against anemia and high potassium content which balances the electrolyte levels in our system, keeping our heart muscles in order, thanks to Crazy Jacks I have found a new snack that helps make me feel good, without a ‘temporary high’.
Vegan Easy Egg
While I love eggs, I find that eating too much dairy triggers my IBS and acid reflux, which means that having ‘cooked breakfasts’ don’t always have the best impact on my stomach. I end up feeling bloated, crabby and nauseous, which has an impact on my mental health as I can feel a bit s**tty about myself. Granted it is not just too much dairy that aggravates my stomach, but as a vegetarian who has been incorporating more vegan food into my diet, I have found that a more plant based diet does help with my dietary issues.Which is where Vegan Easy Egg comes in; equal to 15 eggs per pack, these vegan eggs are also free from gluten and are the perfect alternative to normal eggs, if you have dietary issues like myself.
Be Open To Trying New Things ( But At The Same Time It’s OK To Stick To Old Favorites)
More of a ‘life mantra’ than a ‘toolkit item’, when it comes to mental health, I know from personal experience how hard it can be to try new things. After all planning my first blog event scares me shitless because I A. worry too much about what people think, B. I am terrified of failure and C. I am my own worst critic and a self-confessed perfectionist. But regardless of what your mind ‘might be telling you’, there is no such thing as failure, only mistakes that we can learn and grow from. Furthermore ‘trying something new’ no matter how big or small can help us feel more confident,self-assured and positive because we show that our mental health does not stop us from doing anything, as we and we alone have the power to make a change.
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Faded Spring’s New Things To Try Bucket List
1. Skydiving
2. Design A Fashion Line
3. Organize a campaign against animal and child abuse
New Things I Have Tried In 2018
- Organizing my first ever blogger event and aiming to create an inclusive and friendly community who are there to support each other.
- Vegan Snack Boxes
- Learning A New Language. I can speak Portuguese and English but have signed myself up to learn Italian as I think it is a beautiful,lyrical language.
So you see trying something new can be as simple as trying a new food,but just taking the time to step outside our comfort zones can be a great confidence booster. I know that when I started to blog, I found a outlet to deal with my emotions that I had not found before and you can too!
Put Yourself First ( Don’t Feel Guilty)
When you have kids or other commitments like a business to run, learning to put ourselves first is almost an ‘alien concept’. But here is where you are wrong, feeling run down because you focus so much energy on others can have a negative impact on your mental health and leave you down in the dumps. But listen to me, don’t feel guilty because you need some time away from loved ones. There is nothing selfish about being ‘devoted’ to self care and in fact it is necessary to need some time out from our responsibilities, even if our mind is telling us something different.
How To Put Yourself First
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1.Don’t ignore your emotions. If you are feeling sad, angry or miserable, acknowledge that you need to deal with your mental health.For years I ‘ignored my mental health’ because I thought I was just sensitive, when in reality I was recovering from childhood trauma and abuse,which had an impact on the way I viewed myself and how I perceived others were viewing me as. Until one day,I sought help, I had counselling, I cut toxic people out of my life and began focusing on the things that made me happy, instead of letting negative influences into my world. I have a saying ‘sending rainbow unicorns and happy sprinkles your way’ which means focusing on and surrounding yourself with positive influences. For me that is good friends, animals and good food but for others that might be their partner, clothing and makeup.
2. TREAT DAY! Don’t forget to treat yourself to things that make you happy. It can be anything from a £1 nail polish, right through to a designer handbag you have been coveting, just remember that sometimes it is ok to spend money on yourself. Don’t feel guilty.. own it.
3. Tick off activities on your ‘happy list’.Whether you find that you are at your most happiest when you are eating out with friends or love snuggling up with your partner on the sofa, don’t let your happy list go unnoticed.
Just Treating Yourself Full Stop
Speaking of putting ourselves first, when it comes to treating ourselves, it is guaranteed that we would much rather spend time and effort on others and neglect ourselves in the process. Well not today satan, from treating yourself to new cruelty free make up, to buying that fluffy cardigan that you have been coveting, here are my top picks to bring the sunshine into your life.
A Spa Day At Home
Sure we have already got the ‘bubble bath’ down pat, but what about a a spa day that can be done at home and best of all, won’t break the bank either?Whether you fancy instructing your imaginary boyfriend to give you a deep tissue massage or want to look like you have joined the cast of Shrek, with a soothing face mask to treat your skin, then a spa day will help you feel like a mermaid who deserves to be treated like a princess.
Feel Good Clothing
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Nothing makes me happier than finding clothes that help me look and feel good. Whether you want to chill at home in a super comfy jumper or want to dress up in a beautiful dress, our interpretation of what ‘constitutes’as feel good clothing is personal to our style and who we are as people. For example I feel at my happiest, when I am dressed up in pink and blue, in a dress with heels and ‘fully glammed’ or ‘Princessed Up’, because I love putting make up on and feeling like I am on a night out. Which might seem ironic considering I like to dance but don’t like to party but at least I will look good and that is all that matters right?
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Feel Good Dresses
Since going cruelty free last June, I have made it my mission to introduce my readers to cruelty free purchases that can ‘make you look and feel good’, without harming our precious animal friends. As I mentioned in my feature on ‘International Animal Rights Day’, as an animal lover it did not sit right with me that the products I used contributed to the torture of animals, so I decided to overhaul my lifestyle and throw out make up, skincare, perfume, clothing and accessories that had used animals in some sort of shape or form, replacing it with kinder, cruelty free alternatives. Which is where Neek Lipsticks come in;100% natural and vegan lipsticks that are made on a base of jojoba, shea oil and avocado then coloured naturally with mica and pigment, with natural nude, satin sheen and pink shades at the forefront of the collection.
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Other Things You Might Like To Include In Your Mental Health Toolkit
- A soundtrack of all your favourite artists
- Pictures Of Loved Ones
- Fresh Air & Activities Outside
- Feel Good Books & Comedies
What Would You Have In Your Mental Health Toolkit To Feel More Positive?
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It is SO true that the weather can affect depression and so many people do not realize that. Thank you for bringing awareness to that. My personal fave is the snuggly pj and Netflix set 🙂 I love crawling in bed and enjoying a good movie in my PJ’s. Thanks for sharing xx
I had to smile when I read your choice of happy movies – “anything with Adam Sandler in it.” So true. Some of his movies are downright funny and some are heartwarming, but all of them do make you happy inside. My me time is usually spent reading books and listening to music.
When I was younger, reading a suspense/ thriller genre book makes me feel OK. Now that I am an adult (with less time), reading an informative blog post or engaging in educational FB groups make the blues away.
Pj and Netflix sesh! Love it! I also love the idea of solo date nights. Great read! X
I absolutely love the outfits! and I love the suggestions you have, I also have struggled with depression and anxiety is quite a promenant one, and I always find that doing things like listening to music or just having a bath and pampering myself is something that doesn’t necesarilly take the feelings away but can act as a healthy distraction
Very well written piece! Love some of these tips,they will definitely come in handy when I next get the winter blues
If i am honest, I never knew what depression or anxiety was and it is such a real thing. And thanks to friends like you have always pulled me through no questions asked, I have to say thank you my darling and I will always and forever be there for you too. x
Some great items here to really help beat those January blues. It really is the worst month of the year I find!
I love this so so much, For me I have my pets and family in my mental health toolbox ☺️
Learning to be comfortable in my own skin has been the hardest thing for me. Sometimes you just have to say screw it. It’s better for self care and self love ❤️
These are really great, I think I am in need of some me time a pamper session and I know that white chicks will surely brighten my day anytime, it’s actually been a while since I just sat and watched a great movie.
I just love all these ideas. I personally love snuggling up on the couch and watching a good show. I recently binged Stranger Things on Netflix. I also love to read and munch on some tasty snacks!
It sounds like you have some great things planned for this year, when it comes to trying new things (good luck with your first blogger event). There are definitely some great ideas for helping beat the January blues here.
January really has been a depressing month for me, it just seems to be one stress after another, all 3 of my kids have caused me stress and worry for one reason or another and just as I think I have it sorted one of them throws something else at us. I do love all your ideas to beat the January blues, and anything that makes you feel good or puts a smile on your face is a good thing. Chocolate and a good comedy is my thing with a bit of pampering thrown in x
So many people have similar struggles and will appreciate this blog post. You have many great suggestions here to pick yourself up when the winter blues take hold. There is so much more to learn about the mind-body connection, but I think most people understand that when you do something that feels physically good your stress levels reduce. That could be light exercise, sex, essential oils rub, relaxing hot bath, and similar.
January is my favorite month as it has my birthday, and it’s bumming me out how many people hate it! I do hope everyone takes care of their mental health and finds ways to keep happy even in the cold. Even though I love January, I also love the sun, so I always make sure to get outside anytime the temperature is bearable, even if it’s just to walk around shopping centers or something.
Oh January is one of my favourite months. I think it is so important to take care of mental health as it is a necessity for all. I liked your suggestions that you had in your mental health toolkit like good films!
I am the same way when it comes to partying! I would much rather stay home in cozy pajamas with a new book!
Ooh! I love this idea so much – especially as this time of year can be so difficult for so many people! I always find that pamper/self-care/no-internet/no-people days are SO helpful, but I definitely don’t do them enough! xx
Two things I would add to my mental health toolkit is playing basketball and blogging. The reasons behind these are they relax me on a way nothing really can.
Its great that so have so many happy things in your toolkit. Knowing how to help yourself when you’re having a bad MH day or struggling is so important. A lot of the things in my list are similar to yours, I love spending time with Ellie especially in the fresh air, looking after myself properly, treating myself and taking time out from everything to watch Netflix or read.
This is so great, and you have come a long way. So many people who have been in the same situation that you were once in, can’t seem to grow from it. These are great tips for self care, and I have to say that’s the biggest looking bath bomb ever!
I completely like your idea of ‘me time’. I tried going on solo trips but solo date nights sounds interesting. Perhaps I should definitely try it. Good read. Thanks. 🙂
This is an amazing tool kit and is beautifully written and clearly from the heart. I love the idea of making more time for ourselves – doesn’t have to be a lot of time or anything big but a bath with a fancy new bath bomb or chilling watching the Inbetweeners sounds perfect and can do wonders! I hope you use the toolkit and it helps support you – I will be using some of these tips too!
I love your frank nature and your great outfits. I think I agree with you that you can have a lot of fun by yourself if you want to. I am married so I like to spend time with him whhen we get a chance. I am going to look for he vegan bath oil and try that.
I do agree with having your tool kit or what I call a “happy box”. In my happy box I have a playlist with happy music. Inspiring books and lots of photographs of family, especially of my little girl 🙂
There are some phenomenal tips in here. Self care and self pampering are definitely needed – as is that Little Lelo godsend!
C x
oh em gee this post is perfect girl! I have felt so down in January since I came back to London. I am missing my bf so much and it has made me feel so sad and prevented to be productive. It improved last week and last weekend i was so productive and did so much! but i am sure i can get it even better! me-time all the way! with some cool books and blogging! loving these public desire heels!
I really enjoyed reading this because I actually had a bad day yesterday. So yes, learning to be enough company for me but how do you deal with negative emotions? What’s the right thing to do
It’s all about learning how to cope. We don’t all have good days even if some are not suffering from PTSD, Depression, Anxiety and other mental health issues, one way or another there will always be “THOSE” days. I think these are awesome ways to beat that and to make sure your mind is at peace.
It’s so true that the weather can make you often feel worse. I call it the winter blahs. I know that a Netflix and Chill night is one of my favourite ways to escape. Learning to be on your own (as in being the only company) is something everyone should do. It is strange at first. But truly being comfortable with yourself can make a world of difference. This was such a great post to read.
Ana, Not just you, I think many of us have had such emotions wherein we wanted to cry, sometimes closing ourselves within the small room and unable to confront the world. The ideas you’ve shared to remove the blues are truly fascinating. I loved a solo date and bubble bath idea so much. M last few days were also really sad, I’m sure to go for bubble bath today with rejuvenating oils! Thanks
Ana, you are such a courageous and beautiful woman; Inside and out. I admire your honesty and your promotion of self care. Not many people understand themselves as intimately as you do. To be honest, I think a lot of women myself included at times spend so much time putting others (spouse, children, boyfriend, friends, etc.) first that they forget to care about themselves and then wonder why they are depressed or why they let themselves go. I have been focusing on self care as of late and treating myself, coincidentally since I started blogging. There are a lot of inspirational strong female bloggers, yourself included.
I love both of those outfits! I also fully agree with how I like to spend my Saturday nights! Netflix and a cozy blanket every night.
This is a good read to beat the blues. Sometimes, I also need to remind myself that it’s okay to cry. Getting a “Me Time” is the best thing to learn and do to overcome mental stress.
I love love your lipstick in the first look. I haven’t watched any of the shows you mentioned so I have added them to my list and I am going to watch them in the wee hours when sleep is far far away. I love that you talk about the elephant in the room. It’s important and good to acknowledged.
This is a great collection of self-care tips – I completely relate to the importance of getting comfortable being alone with yourself. As an introvert, this is my best chance to relax and recharge so I can really feel my best
I love that you work through your problems by going to your loved ones. I think this is so important for keeping a healthy outlook and mindset!
Totally agree with you about certain seasons carrying different emotions! I always feel so “drab” during the winter – I guess it’s because the trees are so bare, there’s snow on the ground and you’re stuck in the house all day!
Although I don’t suffer from depression I must admit my mood is totally sun-depended. I mean I like rain too but let’s be honest, nothing beats a sunny day to make you happy! I wish I could watch some of the movies and series you propose but wtih a toddler it’s impossible, lol! Oh, and sex? The best mood changer of them all 😉
Really enjoyed your post, I found being comfortable with myself hard in my teens. Nearly at the end of January now hopefully the days becoming lighter will help us all. I’m a pj’s on the couch girl always have been and always will be
I feel the most down during December, because I miss spending the Holidays with my parents who are now gone. I think it’s really important that you try to take care of your mental health and focus on all the good things. This is such a nice toolkit no matter what time of the year it is that you’re feeling a little low.
I LOVE this!! I really struggle with the January blues so this is so helpful! I definitely have lots of dressing gown and netflix time, that’s just a daily occurrence!! Also I LOVE that you plan on designing a fashion line! You are absolutely going to succeed at that!
I am a big believer in ‘me time’ it is good for the soul and stops me getting stressed. I have that bath oil, it smells divine x
On many days, almost every other day a bath is the only thing to life my spirits as well as physically and mentally make me feel better almost straight after getting out. I am at so much peace and my body is at so much peace it is honestly the best part of my day. Thank you for a whole list of shows and movies I can binge on over the weekend! I need a feel good weekend this week!
Mental health is so important and I am a big advocate for self care. I appreciate all your tips and will definitely try out a few starting tonight.
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Self-care is one key to happiness. This is a wonderful read! So inspiring.
This is a great mental health toolkit guide. I love the Olverum Bath oil a lot. Still use mine.
I am diagnosed with bipolar and PTSD so know all too well how mental illness destroys your life and I always find the winter months more difficult and I love that Me Time is on your list as thats the one I am going to be focusing on this year, finding things I enjoy for myself
Ana, I love how you can talk of some of the deepest things, and continue on to make this a really honest, and very human post. Some wonderful suggestions for a great mental health tool kit.
The Happy Sequin Mermaid Look is the best on this post! I would like to try that Vegan Egg as I haven’t had one before. Those soft apricots look great as well. I wonder what’s inside!
I love the idea of the bath bomb. It can definitely brighten up our mood.
Being comfortable in your own company is such an empowering feeling – it takes time but can be very rewarding. I never think of baths as therapy but thinking about it, wonder why not.
Abbey bought me that exact bath bomb for Christmas and it was gorgeous. The sparkles and swirl of colours in the bath was enough to relax me. (love olverum too)
I think this is a very elaborate list of things that will pamper anyone! Haha! I’m sorry to hear about the not-so-good past you have. But I am happy to know that you are coping and you are transforming those negative vibes to something really positive like writing!
January is such a hard time for me. I suffer from depression and SAD and the lack of vitamin D makes it all worse.
I love your ideas for a perfect solo date nights as I do most of these myself, I am loving your tips on beating January blues
Well, I would definitely go with NetFlix or some cool music for starters and then I would rather treat myself with lots of chocolate to brighten up my mood !! I must say that your dresses are also awesome and glad that it helped in beating January blues 🙂
I love some of your ideas – I definitely feel a bath, adn a snuggle in the PJ’s help. I also find regular exercise helps – I think its the endorphin’s, and feeling healthier makes me mentally happier as well.
January can be such a hard month, thanks for being so frank and showing us your tips for managing your mental health. I find it helps to have go to hobbies and treats for when you’re feeling low. I find having a long bath or going for a walk somewhere green helps me to clear my head.
Agree. Being happy in your own company makes such a difference. After years travelling on business (often on my own) I’m quite comfortable going for a meal on my own if I want to. It took me years to reach this point.
Amazing tips to get out of feeling blue. It’s so important like you said to acknowledge our feelings but also to have methods to help us deal with them.
Well couldn’t believe there was so many interesting things all in one page! I really like all the tips to take care of yourself and things to feed your inner happiness, the bath bomb looked pretty neat and the vibrator looked pleasing! Definitely checking those out, thanks for the insight ;D
WOW, that is a lot to go through, PTSD and anxiety is never is never easy to live with, just ask my wife. I hope you manage to keep on going with your coping mechanism. Good luck Ana.
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Great tips! I love pampering time like going to a massage or just taking a long bath – and I’d love to try those cruelty free bath bombs. Reading, and watching Netflix are great too. Lately I’ve fallen in love with the new season of modern family in Netflix, Zumbo’s Amazing Desserts was also a great show to spend couple nights with. From your list we like to watch American Dad together with my fiancée. 🙂
I love that you talked about so many ways to fight the January blues! Interesting that you mentioned TV shows — I had surgery just last week, so I knew that January and February would be hard. I’ve been binging HGTV shows, they just really warm my heart (especially Fixer Upper) and they’re so light and happy!!
I am an introvert so I really understand the value if having ‘me’ time especially when too down. It helps one to reflect on what happened and even learn to appreciate oneself. And yes, a solo date night is too awesome. There is a time I had too much stress from some bad breakup, all I need was take myself out, to a good restaurant , the cool music playing helped to sooth my mind. Nice mental kit you got!
This is amazing, seriously. Self-care is so important; I always have to remind myself with everything going on that it’s okay to take a breather and focus on myself for a moment! I’ll definitely be treating myself to a one-woman date night soon– those bath bombs look like exactly what I need in my life right now.
I make sure that I get plenty of sunlight in the winter, either by sitting by the window to read, or actually getting outside and inhaling the cold air. Both are invigorating to me!
It’s so great to be comfortable in one’s own space ; it especially works for me that I’m an introvert. Then, you get to know what works best for you and even plan to take yourself out!Ha-ha!Nice mental kit!
You look amazing in all of these, seriously. My pets and family are my massive help 😌
I love your photos, they are always bright and colorful! I have started lifting weights which has done wonders for my mental health. I think a bath with that bath bomb would help too!
January is a hard month for me. Thanks for the tips, they are much needed.
I agree with you on so many things…. All except for the sulfate free shampoo… I know they are better for you, but my hair doesn’t respond that well to some of them (not all). I love how open and honest you are in your blog… So refreshing. I love the sandals you have on in the first photo btw. Having said that. To keep my sanity (or what’s left of it anyways) I workout in the gym like a maniac. It’s like therapy when I leave the gym… I feel so much better.
These cold dark January’s can certainly make you feel quite blue. These are some great thing s t do and watch. I love bath bombs and self care. While my hubby was with the girls I soaked in the tub and turn on Big Daddy, it was so much fun.
Many of us experience some sort of anxiety whenever January comes around. I don’t know if it is because of the cold winter or because of thinking about the uncertainty of what the next few months will bring. I like your advice on how to beat these blues. I would be perfectly content with a quiet time alone, bundled up under a thick, cozy blanket on the couch, reading a book and sipping hot cocoa. 🙂
I agree, there’s nothing wrong with ‘some me time’.. it’s not selfish and we don’t need to feel guilty to pamper ourselves for a while because it recharge our energy. Art helps me deal with my anxiety as well as listening to music and watch movies.
Your suggestions are fantastic and I’m definitely adding them to the list of things to do when I’m having an off day. And I’m also super jealous of your amazing sense of style – especially the pink mermaid look, it looks absolutely stunning on you! xo
Anything sparkly makes me happy! So those dresses are right up my street!
Wow this post is everything! I love how varied it is, with all your recommendations and tips. Even the shows to watch (I’m a fan of Rick & Morty haha) and your fab outfits. I was recently diagnosed with mild depression and anxiety disorder and have had a very difficult holiday/past couple of months, so I will take this mental health toolkit to heart <3 thank you!
A hot bubble bath with some lush bubbles followed by pjs and netflix! perfect!
Me time is so important. Sometimes you just need to take a night off and spoil yourself, sometimes a weekend. Eating comfort food, enjoying a great movie, taking a bath or giving yourself a spa treatment all help revive me. Occasionally, I find a good night’s sleep can help shake off the blues. It gives me a chance to reset myself so I can go out and enjoy life.
It is so important to take care of our mental health. I was always the one who never wanted to talk about my feelings or why I was upset as well, but I feel much better when I let it out
A holistic approach to treating depression will give you the best results. Treatment should most definitely include me time.
This post is so spot on! January is such a bleak and grey month! I always get a bit down in the mouth during this time of the year.
As I type, it’s a really cold and grey day here in Iowa. The funniest thing is, this year I haven’t been feeling terribly blue. Probably because I’ve been diligent about practicing self-care. I signed up for a monthly massage and facial, started taking Wednesday spin class with a neighbor, and signed up for a health challenge at the gym. The grey is wreaking havoc with my food photography, but that’s ok. There are many more sunny days to come! Happy January, Ana. x
That Pretty Little Thing handbag would definitely help me beat the January blues! They are definitely real, especially here in Massachusetts with the terrible weather. I totally agree and love all your tips on how to keep positive and happy. Watching shows and making me time for yourself may seem so obvious sometimes, but we really do often forget to slow down and take our own advice! That bath bomb is everything BTW, I use it as often as possible 🙂
I absolutely adore your outfits and your ways of beating the january blues. One thing that really resonated with me is that it’s ok to stay in if you’re feeling anxious and don’t want to go out. I’m definitely going to take note of some of your happy shows too to watch. x
January in the UK is really hard and i agree with all those suggestions on how to make oneself better! Enjoying our own company is one of the best because we have it all in ourselves x love x
So many great ideas. I like a hygge approach to wellbeing.
I’ve had depression for the past 10 years but I’ve turned a corner following the death of my dad 2 and a half years ago. It made me re-evaluate what was important to me and I’ve since been off my anti depressants for 2 years next month. I can be hard at times but when I’m feeling down I’ve learnt to recognise why and to focus on how far I’ve come. Taking time to relax is important and when I started running last summer it really has giving me more freedom and clarity of mind.
It is so important to practice self care all year round but especially in January when the blues can hit most of all. There’s some great stuff in your toolkit
Being in the bitter cold of Chicago winter I can definitely relate to the January blues. I’m totally with you on your idea for a perfect Saturday night. I’ve turned down more invites to go out this winter more than I’ve ever done in the past and I’m come to a point in my life where I’m ok with that. Solo date nights over drunken raves anyday for this kid!
There’s so much I want to say about this post, but hang on – vegan eggs? I absolutely have to try this. If I found a good egg alternative I could go full vegan. Thanks for giving me a heads up about this!
Really loved this post and I honestly think you’ve covered all basis. Bath oils are possibly my favourite aid to help me unwind. I’m working on a ‘hack your mood’ style post to help people understand how different oils can effect you. I also love the Olverum oil! I had a few samples a while back and I honestly felt like a queen when using them!
I like the idea of a mental health toolkit for those days when you need a bit of a pick me up. A day in my pyjamas always sorts me out.
First of all thank you so much for tackling two taboos in one.
I love that you are talking about mental health, how to stay healthy and upbeat during the winter. It makes me totally happy that more people are talking about it and also that you are talking about sex and masturbating something people don’t talk about and how it can really lift up your mood.
As a teenager, I had a friend who would say she had the Winter Blues – I didn’t really get it until one day I just asked her what she meant. It wasn’t until then that I learned how greatly a season and the changes in weather, lack of sun, etc. can impact someones emotions.
I had no idea that weather can affect people who are suffering from depression. These are some wonderful ideas. Self-care and love is definitely the number 1 way to beat any mental illness. I love the pj set you are wearing and thanks for sharing the movie list. I am looking for recommendations. GOod luck with learning Italian.
I couldn’t agree more! Any Adam Sandler movie is good for the soul. Uplifting and hilarious is something you can always expect when it comes to his films!
Great post. Honestly we have all had our bad time and gloomy days, I have too, those days I would just keep to myself and just interact with my mind and where the external world seems to irritate me but it’s all over now because I made up my mind that once I am out I ain’t going back. I started blogging, I talked to God more but I do slack and make mistakes but I decided to chose happiness and honestly I haven’t looked back. I love the part of the self date, people may see it as you being lonely or not having ppl to talk to but it’s you just having some lovely time with yourself and pampering yourself.
I remember when I was suffering from depression right after the divorce. I was ok with the weekends I had my daughter. But the weekends I did not felt really empty and I wasn’t sure what I was going to do. This would have been so helpful to remind myself of things back then. I know it’s silly but those bath bombs look so cool. Unfortunately I haven’t found too many places that have a long enough bath tub for me to fit in, which kind of stinks. I used to love getting myself all the way under the water when I was younger, and I just can’t any more. I do think music and finding things I love to eat or shows I love to watch. And for me while I do like being around people, sometimes I like the peace and quiet of nature to recharge my batteries.
I’m not sure what a ‘mental health kit’ was. But, now that I read your post, it looks like I really need to do this! Even though I have the Happy food, I haven’t watched any of the Happy TV shows/films! And a solo date night is so going to happen! You always inspire me to go ahead and do these things!!
PS – Loved your all maroon outfit. I think that colour suits you the best! 🙂
Me time is so important. While I get so busy, this is a great reminder that I need to make the time. I know I too have been feeling grumpy but I went out anyway and then regretted it. It’s always best to listen to yourself and tell yourself that no is totally okay.
Wow, i love this! I can totally relate to the winter blues. In fact, I moved to LA from Michigan just to avoid the cold, and oh my goodness has it helped my mental health! I love your ways of dealing with it though, i definitely think they would help brighten a gloomy day! 🙂
I so love the idea of a solo- date – time. This is really one way of keeping away from the stress and pressures of the world. And also having a day spa at home, this idea is so simple and so attainable!
These are such great ideas. I tend to try to keep busy when I’m feeling down, but really it’s more important than ever to make time for ourselves .
I freaking love this post. It’s so helpful, and such wonderful ideas. Self care & putting yourself first once in a while are so important! xxx
The ‘Solo date’ seems like a great idea. Pampering session for 1.
In my Mental health toolkit I would add, funny cat memes and minion memes. Cheer me up easily.
I would add, like you, the Inbetweeners, hilarious.
One extra thing I would add is, by accident on the way home I was reading an article and the author linked to Amazon to show some funny comments. There were hundreds. Within 5 minutes on the train I had tears running down my face and, well, I had to turn my phone off.
The item being sold is a sigma lens for $26000.00, it was huge and the questions and comments were fantastic.
A few pages like this would definitely be in my toolkit.
if anyone wants to see this, really really funny questions it’s here.
https://www.amazon.com/Sigma-200-500mm-Ultra-Telephoto-Nikon-Cameras/dp/B0013DAPNU/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&linkCode=sl1&tag=videoun-20&linkId=296d216ba936978106b736528f97ef2f
Wow there is so much to this post, so many great ideas! I love the date night with yourself idea! All these little things help us get through the harder things .Some really great inspiration here.
Very well written! I totally agree with the movies you recommended… I am a big Shrek and Adam Sandler movie fan!
I loved reading this, and I’m right there with you on a lot that you used to deal with. Seasonal depression is real, but often times, the inner battles last year round as well. Your list of tips were spot on: taking baths, eating comfort food, and watching Netflix always help to cheer me up and help me relax!
I love that you reminded the reader to masturbate cause that relaxes so much after a long day and even though I’m in a relationship, loving yourself is SO important.
eating foods that makes you happy is shouting out to me. that’s always one thing that perks up my mood. These are some great tips and recommendations
Excellent tips to keep your spirits up. January is usually a tough month for me too but staying busy helps. I recently starting watching “Haters Back Off” on Netflix and it’s been a hilarious show to watch before bed. Definitely a must see because it’s ridiculous and is all about trying to be an influencer online. LOVE IT!
You know what? you are such a strong and courageous woman! And I want to thank you for sharing these with us! You inspire many people
I am trying to instill in my kids at their young age of 6 and 8 just how important it is to take care of their mental health. Meaning, if they are sad, speak up. Angry, speak up. Happy, speak up. I don’t want them holding things in as I have seen just how destructive it has been for adulthood when people keep things within.
I like all these tips.It is really important to have some ‘me time’. Self care is the best way to avoid stress and depression.
This is a wonderful approach to beating the winter blues! It is always good to have strategies to go to when you’re feeling a bit down 🙂
As always I’m amused by your writing! About January blues I think that people’s expectations at this time of year may be too high. I treat it like any other month of the year, it’s nothing special after all for me. I never suffered from depression, but I suffered from anxiety. This theme is very delicate and should have a special care.
I completely agree that learning to love your own company has a huge part to play in how happy and content you are. The older you get, the more I find I love my own company.
Self-care is so important nowadays, especially with hectic schedules. Love this post <3
Winter is definitely harder for me as it tends to be cloudy or gray & I love sunshine and light. I much prefer a sunny day with all my windows open. Self-care is another thing that is SO important and many people overlook.
I’ve actually been feeling depressed lately, could it really be the weather? Didn’t think of that! Thanks for providing interesting ideas to cope with this. I got to try some to feel better.
Nothing wrong with a night of Netflix and PJ’s, those are my favorite kind of evenings. 🙂
Lately, I feel like I want to scream my head off. Can you imagine my anxiety of our metropolis being on quarantine since March 16? I try my best to keep sane by giving myself enough me time. And that is binge watching Netflix! I will check those recommendations you listed. The InBetweeners sound good.
Thanks for being brave enough to share your personal journey with us. I’ve heard that exercise coupled with a sun lamp help with the winter blues. Thanks again!
Date nights for myself are one of my favorite ways to practice self care. Getting dressed up just for myself is the best!
Such a brilliant post. Thanks for sharing your story – I feel like I’m 100% on the same page as you. The idea of going to big events and parties has always given me massive anxiety and I’ve always tried to find ways to get out of going, Then if I decline the guilt comes creeping in. I love being with people one on one. Otherwise, spending good quality time alone makes me happy too. I love the solo date idea and do it often 🙂
I love the idea of a solo date night. I haven’t done that in years!
Very well-written post and extremely helpful! Having a mental health toolkit is a wonderful idea and I love all the blue tones.
I love these ideas! Season depression is rough for me so I’m especially looking for ways to take care of my mental health this time of year
The Inbetweeners and Miranda! I love those shows so much, they never fail to make me smile and cry laughing on a bad mental health day. I love this 🙂
These are great recommendations. I 100% endorse gratitude. I started practicing gratitude before work each morning-and it gave me motivation, inspiration to start my day.
Ah, I love this post and know all about the January blues! I have really been working on putting myself first lately and realize how much I’ve neglected me in the last few years raising two toddlers. I love your suggestions and products. You can definitely feel better about yourself too knowing you’re not not contributing to animal cruelty in the process. I think you speak to so many of us who feel the same way and also experience GAD and similar disorders. Thanks for raising awareness and for the great suggestions!!
Great as usual!! I really appreciate this post. Especially your list of Happy movies!! I’m going to watch them!!
I agree that a nice soak in a bath is relaxing. My way to beat the blues would be to read a good book as well. I’d also indulge in a chick flick, maybe a Jane Austen adaptation or Downton Abbey. Thanks for the ideas.
I like the idea of taking a bubble bath and reading a good book. Great way to relax after a long day.
These are great tips—especially as Denmark heads toward 18 hours of darkness until the Solstice saves us again! Winters are rough here 🙁
I will try some of these. I do enjoy a nice bath bomb. They can be so relaxing with a good book.
I am feeling the winter blues coming on. I need to push myself to get outside to soak up the sun and I like your suggestions of the bath products.
I love the treat day! I get myself new nailpolish or fresh flowers on the regular to help pick me up.
I’ve never been one for long baths, but now I am wondering if I would like it. I think I will try again.
I totally agree, Thank you so much for these great ideas I love all of these but what I love the most is the idea of having a solo date night.
It’s true, the weather really can affect people’s mental health. These are all great suggestions. I love Lush bath bombs, we buy them regularly. They smell amazing!!!!
I love that you created a mental health toolkit, thanks for creating these tips.
Loving all of these gifts to self perfect for beating the blues and lifting your spirits 😉 I so need that bath bomb!
Feeling good in your clothes helps a lot to feel better in general. Thanks for sharing these tips!
I make sure to have my ME time. It’s important to take a break and just relax.
This is really a great mental health toolkit! I also love Miranda and American Dad
I am much the same way as a homebody. I much prefer a cup of hot tea and a rental to a night out but checking in with oneself is very important. Good advice!
So many great ideas and recommendations! I love long warm bubble baths in the fall and winter and I adore a nice feel-good movie. My fav is a British flick btw. love Actually.
Having a mental health checklist is a good idea. Thanks for sharing.
These are wonderful mental health tool kits. Nowadays mental health needs to taken care more than anything. people are struggling.